How often have you been told to work on ‘overcoming’ your weaknesses so you can be a better version of yourself? Thousands? Well, it’s time to question the usefulness of that advice. The idea that you should fix what is ‘broken’ seems logical, but it isn’t helpful at all. In fact, it can significantly contribute to feelings of self-doubt, insecurity, and unworthiness. If these feelings are a big part of your life, they can lead to imposter syndrome. Sadly, this is even more likely if you are highly sensitive or talented.

Focusing on what’s wrong with you is a fast track to feeling inadequate. Yet despite this, the belief that ‘fixing’ ourselves leads to success and happiness is still deeply ingrained in our culture. You’ve probably been told this thousands of times – by your parents, teachers, bosses, and even friends. And chances are, you’ve tried to do just that. You’ve put all your energy into trying to improve your weaknesses rather than embracing your strengths.

But here’s the truth: you are not broken, and you do not need to be fixed. This is one of the most resonant teachings of the renowned therapist Virginia Satir. Imagine if you adopted her perspective for yourself. Instead of focusing on where you’re lacking, you’d turn your attention to the skills, talents, and abilities that make you unique. You’d own your natural talents and harness them fully, allowing them to shine in a way that benefits the world.

When you emphasise your strengths, you’ll feel self-assured and accomplished. You’ll be more likely to excel and make a positive difference at work. Plus, your overall happiness and satisfaction will increase. Wouldn’t you prefer leveraging your strengths rather than constantly striving to fix your weaknesses? I know I do!

The benefits of being strengths-focused have been demonstrated by many Positive Psychology research projects. For example, did you know that focusing on your strengths can lead to vastly improved work performance and productivity? It’s true! Plus, capitalising on your strengths helps you enter a state of flow, which leads to deep fulfilment and life satisfaction.

So, the next time you’re told to ‘close a gap’ or ‘focus on overcoming a weakness’, push back. Bad advice, however well-intentioned it might be, is not worth taking. You are already enough, and your strengths are what truly make you shine. Embrace them and watch yourself thrive!

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders.