Yes. Another year has flown by and soon it will be time to wind down. But that isn’t always as easy as it sounds.  If you’re used to working at full speed, going into relaxation mode can be tricky.  Here are some tips to help you unwind and reboot during the holiday season. Remember, leaders with momentum look after themselves!

Choose your activities wisely

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the sheer number of events in your calendar, remember that you don’t have to say yes to everything. Instead of feeling obligated to attend every event or party, be selective with your invitations. Prioritise activities you enjoy and set clear boundaries for yourself. Don’t be afraid to politely decline invitations or suggest alternative ways of spending time together, such as meeting up for a coffee or going for a walk.

Review the past year with gratitude

Take a moment to reflect on the past year with gratitude. Think about your accomplishments, challenges you overcame and lessons you learned. Write them down or share them with loved ones. Instead of sending end-of-year greetings, why not send thank-you notes to the people who made a positive impact on your life? This will not only make them feel appreciated, but it will also help you remember all the good things that happened throughout the year.

For high achievers, there’s nothing worse than realising your momentum has stalled for no apparent reason.  Your filing cabinet is full of unfinished projects. Your to-do list is growing longer by the minute. And your once-steep career trajectory has dived, taking your motivation with it. This is not the end, though. You can rebuild momentum get back on track. In fact, that’s what my Momentum Lab (which is starting soon) is all about. \

Momentum Lab is for stalled go-getters. It moves you from stuck to unstoppable in just 7 days.  How? By shifting your attention away from WHY your progress has stalled. Then showing you HOW to get going again – without feeling overwhelmed or pressurised. Momentum helps you take three important steps.

STEP 1: Get truly motivated instead of hyped up

What’s the difference? When you’re motivated, you get energy from within. When you’re hyped-up, you rely on external forces to push you forward. That’s why true motivation lasts over the long-term, but hype dies off quickly. In Momentum Lab, we use a unique Success Maker Plan to spark deep, enduring motivation. This doesn’t just plan your day; it drives your success in achieving your goals.

STEP 2: Get organised, without getting overloaded

No. This does not involve writing countless to-do lists, hiring a professional organiser or downloading yet another productivity app. Instead, in means using the Succeed in 60 Formula to tame chaos and take back control. Once you do this, of course, it will be easier to focus and thrive. And if organising isn’t your thing, don’t worry. You’ll be given lots of tools and cheat sheets to make streamlining your life easy.

STEP 3: Get results focused, instead of being busy

Yep. No doubt you’ve heard there’s a big difference between efficiency and effectiveness. Momentum takes this idea a step further. You learn to program your mind and your behaviour, so you can get results without working 24/7. What would you do if were 10 times more effective? You’ll find out in Momentum Lab!

I love running Momentum Lab, because the transformations in just one week are astonishing. People who hadn’t made progress for years, suddenly leap forward. Those who have been struggling with motivation find their drive again. And everyone discovers how to manage their energy better – so we can all can relax and enjoy life as well as achieving true success.

If this sounds something you can benefit from (and honestly, who wouldn’t want to be unstoppable and enjoy life at the same time?) join me in Momentum Lab. You’ll get access to all the tools, techniques and support you need to regain your momentum and achieve true success. Enrol here.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

If you think having multiple goals guarantees you’ll succeed, you’re wrong. In fact, the exact opposite is true. The maximum number of goals your mind can focus on at once is three. Any more than this leads to Goal Glut, which is a state of overwhelm that stops you from taking action.

So, why does Goal Glut happen? Well, it’s definitely not your fault. The most common cause is poor leadership. Think about how many times you’ve walked out of a team planning day with a massive list of goals, objectives or KPIs. It’s overwhelming and demotivating, to say the least.

4 signs to watch out for

Signs you’re working in a business that promotes Goal Glut include these:

• Constantly changing priorities
• Complicated planning and performance management processes
• Inconsistent messaging and communication
• Lack of follow-through on plans

How to beat goal glut

Great leaders don’t encourage this behaviour. Instead, they apply the Rule of 3. As the name suggests, this means setting three goals. But not just any goals, meaningful goals. That’s right. You can throw out the SMART formula. Meaningful goals are way more powerful.

Positive psychology researchers have shown that meaningful goals have emotional resonance. They’re easy to remember, because they ‘re anchored in your heart and soul. You’re far better off having three meaningful goals rather than ten that you don’t even care about. That’s how successful people avoid the paralysing grip of Goal Glut and build true momentum in both life and business.

It’s time to bust the myths that lead to Goal Glut. Multitasking doesn’t work. Being busy doesn’t drive results. And measuring output simply for the sake of it is pointless. Start focusing on what truly matters. Set three goals. Make each of them meaningful.  And say goodbye to Goal Glut once and for all.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that does more harm than good? It could be with a ‘high maintenance’ direct report who drains your energy. Or it might be with a negative colleague who constantly undermines your efforts. Like any reasonable person, you’ve probably tried to turn things around with these people. Eventually, though, you might need to recognise that your efforts are taking you into the zone of ‘toxic persistence’.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that you should walk away from every challenging relationship. However, when a relationship becomes toxic, it can damage your career and stop you achieving the goals that matter to you. Here are three signs that your momentum is being negatively influenced by ‘relationship interference’.

SIGN 1: feeling drained by the effort of trying to make things work

This can take a toll on your physical and mental well-being, leaving you feeling burnt out and unable to focus on anything else. Constantly trying to please others and fix a toxic relationship can be exhausting and detrimental to your overall productivity. It’s important to recognise when your efforts are no longer productive and have the courage to step back and reassess the situation.

SIGN 2: your goals have been on the back-burner way too long

Toxic relationships can be a major distraction, causing you to lose sight of your priorities and get sidetracked from working towards your goals. Even worse, some toxic relationships involve active sabotage, where the other person purposely tries to prevent you from achieving your goals. So, take action. If you have a really important goal that has been put on hold because of someone else, do something to change that situation.

SIGN 3: You start doubting your own abilities

Constant criticism and negativity can erode your confidence, leading you to question your own worth and capabilities. If your confidence is being affected by a toxic relationship, start working on your boundaries. Always remember that just because someone says something harsh or disparaging, this doesn’t mean it’s true. Make your own assessment of your skills and capabilities and don’t let others bring you down.

How to break free

So, what can you do to regain your momentum when relationship interference is holding you back? First and foremost, it’s essential to set boundaries. Set limits on how often you interact with toxic people.  If necessary, take formal steps to address boundary-violating behaviours. For example, managers might seek assistance from HR to address issues with a problematic direct report. Or team members can speak up and address concerns about a toxic colleague’s behaviour.

Secondly, stay focused on your goals and priorities. Document them and share them with your manager.  Report on your progress weekly and speak up when a colleague is causing you to get off track. It’s essential to communicate clearly and professionally, explaining how sabotaging behaviour is affecting you and your work.

Finally, build a strong support network. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who can help lift you focus on what matters. Reach out to mentors, colleagues or trusted advisors for guidance and advice. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

Remember, that toxic relationships can only hold you back if you let them. But by setting boundaries, staying focused on your goals and building a strong support network, you can break free from ‘toxic persistence’ and move forward towards success.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

You already know the importance of setting goals – both in personal and professional life. However, simply having a goal is not enough to achieve success. You also need to put in effort and turn your game plan into sustained action. This is where most of us fall down. Do you want to build momentum on what really matters?

Add in a few ‘implementation intentions’ and you have a foolproof plan to double your chances of hitting your goals. So, what, exactly are implementation intentions? And how do they turn you into a go-getting achiever? Put simply, they are if-then plans. They link situational cues (such as potential problems) with responses that will promote success. For example, “If I start feeling unmotivated, then I will do the next step on my action plan and record my success.”

Implementation intentions are powerful because they keep you focused on the end result. They essentially train your brain to think in a way that will keep you moving ahead. They are remarkably easy to create and research has shown they greatly increase your chances of hitting your goals. The key researcher in this field is Peter Gollwitzer. He has shown that adding implementation intention statements to action plans helps you overcome the three main blockers to goal-attainment. You probably recognise at least one of these.

• Failure to start ‘goal striving’. Also known as never getting started!
• Getting derailed or side-tracked in your efforts to achieve your goal.
• Succumbing to negative states and emotions.

It’s a great idea to set 2 or implementation intention statements for any important goal. So the next time you set a goal, don’t use the SMART formula. Use this simple formula to add an implementation intention to it: if situation X is encountered, then I will use behaviour Y in order to reach goal Z. Here are three examples of the formula in action.

1) If I start to get distracted, then I will close my email and turn off notifications for the next hour in order to focus on completing my project on time.

2) If I feel tempted to skip my workout, then I will put on my gym clothes and walk out the door in order to stick to my fitness routine and reach my weight loss goal.

3) If I encounter a difficult problem, then I will take a break and come back to it with a fresh perspective in order to find a solution and achieve success in my project.

And remember, the secret to success and personal fulfilment is knowing what matters to YOU. Then working to build momentum instead of trying to ‘fix’ yourself first. Because it turns out that when we do the things that are most meaningful, we become energised and focused. And, as if by magic, problems and barriers fade away.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

If you think women are achieving parity in management roles, think again. Sure, women are now smashing through glass ceilings at an impressive rate. But once you’ve done that, what happens next? Sadly the answer is often that your career momentum stops. Stuck in cycle of perfectionism, imposter thinking and toxic persistence you get stuck in middle management. So how do you break free? Well, first you need to stop slavishly working on things that don’t have strategic results. Second, you need to break free of social conditioning. Your brain has been programmed to believe three myths. Which of them is keeping you trapped in a mid-level job?

Myth 1: Control breeds success

This myth drives the belief that the more control you have, the more successful you will be. However, this mindset will hinder your success as a leader. Trying to keep across every minor detail is a shortcut to disaster, not success. You need to focus on making progress, not being 100% in control of everything. Remember that control is an illusion anyway. There is always the potential for things to go wrong or changes to hit unexpectedly. Great leaders know this and are willing to live with ambiguity.

Myth 2: High standards drive results

So many women tell me they believe in going ‘above and beyond’ at work. When I ask why, they say it’s a sign of commitment and dedication to the job. This is another load of BS. You see, having high standards doesn’t drive results – it leads to perfectionism and paralysis.

Myth 3: Confidence equates to competence

If you believe this, I bet you spend all your spare time getting more qualifications and shining up your CV. But learning more will NOT make you more confident. Oftentimes, it will distract you from being a gutsy leader who takes risks and learns from mistakes. Savvy female leaders know that true confidence comes from taking action and getting strategic things done, not just accumulating certificates and degrees.

So if you’re a woman determined to break through to senior leadership, it’s time to let go of these myths. Stop trying to control everything. Focus on making a difference. Most importantly, power up your leadership skills instead of trying to be a Jill of all trades. Then you’ll reach your full potential and be a leader with credibility, impact and difference-making success.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

Self-discipline is certainly a trait to be admired. It’s that inner strength that lets you control your feelings, capitalise fully on your strengths and follow through on achieving your goals, despite all those reasons to give up. It’s what keeps you going when you’d much rather be doing anything else. It’s critical to building career momentum and impact at work. But there’s a downside to taking self-discipline too far.

What is toxic persistence?

Have you ever found yourself pushing on with a job even when you’re mentally and physically drained? Or working when you’re fatigued, just to tick one more task off your list? This is the downside of being in flow: you get so engaged in your work that you lose track of time and space. Plus, you don’t consider whether all that effort is reaping results.  If this sounds familiar, you might be edging towards toxic persistence. Eeek.

Toxic persistence happens when determination morphs into an unhelpful obsession. It causes you to keep working on projects that aren’t reaping results, or to hold on to goals that no longer serve you.  It’s an extreme form of self-discipline that can lead to burnout, frustration and even failure. Plus, it’s one of the most common ways ambitious professionals sabotage their own success and career momentum.

How to tell if your ‘stamina’ is toxic persistence

If you think you might be falling into the trap of toxic persistence, here are three questions to ask yourself.

• Where am I focusing my time and attention?
• Am I making progress towards my most important goal, or am I just spinning my wheels?
• What is driving my determination – is it intrinsic motivation or external pressure?

By asking these questions, you will quickly work out whether your self-discipline is serving you well or if it’s becoming toxic. And if you decide that it’s becoming a problem, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to break the cycle of toxic persistence and work as a savvy professional instead of an overzealous workhorse.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

Do you feel overworked, underappreciated and unrewarded at work?  It’s a common scenario that I call the limbo zone – a state of high stress and low influence that lies between achieving professional momentum and burning out. So why do so many professionals, especially women, get ensnared in the limbo zone between stress and success? It boils down to three deeply ingrained assumptions, which drive your behaviour at work. Do you believe any of them?

• Success is directly proportional to competence.
• Perfection is the only acceptable standard.
• To reach your goals, you must always be in control.

These myths, instilled since childhood, can become professional roadblocks. If you believe them, they’ll keep you in a frustrating state of dissatisfaction. But here’s the empowering truth – it doesn’t have to be this way! Escaping the limbo zone between stress and success is easy once you change your perspective.

Expand your perceptual horizons

Instead of focusing solely on competence, explore your potential. Ditch the pursuit of perfection and start celebrating the momentum you’ve already achieved.  Then build on it. And rather than clinging to control, strive to build your influence. That is what will truly move you forward professionally. This paradigm shift can accelerate your career, enhance your credibility, increase your professional impact and turbo charge your confidence. To start putting it in place today, try these three simple tips for building momentum.

Adopt a growth mindset

Embrace continuous learning: understand that competence is not a fixed state but a journey of continuous improvement. Take advantage of learning opportunities, seek feedback and accept that everyone, at every level, has something new to learn.

Aim for progress, not perfection

Accept imperfection: perfection is an unrealistic standard that hampers progress. Instead, aim for progress and celebrate your growing momentum. Learn to live with ambiguity: it’s as simple as admitting, “I don’t know.” By doing so, you open yourself up to new ideas, collaboration and growth.

By changing your mindset and embracing these simple tips, you can break free from the limbo land between stress and success.  So take a deep breath, let go of those limiting beliefs and notice how easy it is to build professional momentum when you use the tips from positive psychology.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

Are you fed up with being told to ‘manage your stress’ by taking a deep breath or going for a walk? These are strategies designed for a different era. A time when workplaces were very different. Today, I’m going to suggest a radical new approach. One that fixes the old problem of being ‘time-poor’ in very different ways. You see,  you’re not stressed because you have poor coping skills. The real problem is something much more insidious.

Fix failing systems, not yourself!

How much time do you waste each week working around the vagaries of badly designed systems and work processes? It’s time to take a radical approach.  Stop being the human equivalent of the worn-out cog that holds a broken machine together. Instead, update the machine.  Make a list of the top 3 processes that waste your time. Then update them, fix them or throw them out altogether.

Zone out to chill out

Firstly, stop pushing yourself to focus all day.  Your brain can’t do that. It needs regular breaks to function at its best. That’s where zoning out comes into play. Research has shown that taking short “brain breaks” throughout the day can improve focus, creativity and productivity. My favourite way to do this is by tapping into the power of trance. This is a deep state of relaxation. It counters stress and induces a calm, contented flow.

In 2023 I designed a group coaching program for managers in a high-profile arts organisation. They wanted to reduce stress and increase their impact. Instead of focusing on time management techniques (which you can learn anywhere), I taught them to access trance states and develop emotion-regulation skills.  By the end of the program, everyone was feeling more focused and in control, despite the continuing demands of their jobs.

Newsflash. Doing things you hate can make you feel stressed. That’s why it’s essential to craft your workday using the 80:20 Rule. This comes from Economics and explains that 80% of your results come from just 20% of your efforts. Here’s the radical bit. I’m not going to tell you to focus on streamlining your work processes.  Instead, I want you to focus on doing tasks you love for at least 20% of your day.

Assuming you work around 8 hours a day, that means allocating just 1.5 hours a day to tasks that bring you joy. It doesn’t sound much but it can make a huge difference to your stress levels!  So, it’s time to stop using outdated strategies to manage stress. Instead, take a radical new approach from this day forth.  Fix the failing systems, take brain breaks and prioritise tasks that bring you joy.

And remember, I’m here to help. Check out my inspiring online coaching lab, Momentum, if you want to dive even deeper into these ideas.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

It’s the start of the year and already you’re exhausted. There’s too much to do and you have so little time to focus on what matters.  If this sounds familiar, take a deep breath. You might be suffering from Goal Glut, which is what I call that state of overwhelmed agitation that comes from taking on too many goals at once.

Despite what you’ve probably been told when setting KPIs at work, success does NOT come from having multiple goals. Once you have more than three things to focus on, you’ll feel scattered, tired and unproductive. That means you’ll show up to work in Stalled Go Getter mode. Here’s what that looks like.

• The goals that matter to you have been put on hold for so long that they are more frustrating than inspiring.
• You never have time to work on the important things, even though you want to.
• Everyone says you’re a high achiever. But you don’t believe it.
• Your once- rapid career progress has stalled. You’re starting to feel like you’re not living up to your potential.
• You want to be back in control and be the unstoppable force you used to be.

So how do you transform into the unstoppable achiever that you want to be? The answer is to focus on momentum, rather than action. Momentum is that magical state where you feel unstoppable, motivated and in control. Momentum happens when you’re in the zone and making progress towards your goals. And over the next few weeks, I’ll be giving you tips on how to do exactly that. Without adding another dozen tasks to your To Do list!

Start today

For now, take a moment to consider the most important question of all: What do YOU want to achieve this year? If you could only pick one goal to focus on, what would it be? That, my friend, is your One Big Goal. Don’t let Goal Glut hold you back from achieving it. And watch out for my next newsletter, because I’ll be sharing my top tips on how to create momentum and make this your most successful year yet.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders.