Are ‘attachment issues’ impacting your leadership style?

Have you ever wondered how attachment styles can affect performance in the workplace? This question is explored in depth in the article “Attachment in the Workplace”  on The Attachment Project. In this article, it asserts that our attachment style can significantly influence how we function and perform at work.

The article begins by introducing attachment theory, which states that people develop certain relationship patterns depending on their upbringing and experiences. It then goes on to explain how early childhood experiences shape our beliefs and behaviours when it comes to forming relationships, both personal and professional.  It further states that these attachment styles can affect our behaviour in the workplace, leading to different levels of performance and engagement

The article then outlines four possible attachment styles which could impact on how well a person performs at work: secure, avoidant, anxious-ambivalent, and disorganised. Each style is associated with its own unique set of beliefs and behaviours which can have a positive or negative effect on one’s performance.

The article finishes with some practical advice for those looking to improve their attachment style in the workplace: develop self-awareness, practice healthy relationships, learn effective communication and problem-solving skills, and seek professional help if necessary. It outlines ways in which understanding our own attachment style can help us better navigate our working environment.

 

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Overall , this article provides an insightful look into how our attachment style can shape our performance in the workplace. It is a must-read for anyone looking to make meaningful changes in their professional life

By understanding your own attachment style, you can develop strategies to help you effectively manage relationships and achieve success at work. This article is an invaluable resource

Examining one’s own attachment style can provide insight into why certain conflicts arise between colleagues, as well as what strategies might be employed to ensure a more effective team dynamic. It has implications for those in leadership positions too; managers, business owners and supervisors are encouraged to understand their own attachment styles so they can better relate to their subordinates and lead them with greater effectiveness.

This is an excellent resource for anyone looking to gain a deeper understanding of how their own attachment style affects their interactions – both positive and negative – in the workplace. Ultimately, understanding one’s self is key for any leader who wishes to foster an environment of collaboration and success amongst their team members.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/attachment-in-the-workplace/

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

3 hidden triggers of Leader fatigue

We’ve all heard of ‘burnout’ and ‘quiet quitting’ in teams.  But we rarely acknowledge that the hidden pressures of leading can cause another problem : Leader Fatigue Complex. Right now, business leaders are experiencing rising levels of weariness. Put simply, bosses and managers showing signs of fatigue than ever before. Learned helplessness is setting in and raising simple tiredness to the level of what I call Leader Fatigue Complex.

Leader Fatigue Complex is worrying. It sparks a range of problems for leaders themselves, as well as their organisations. These include:

  • Reduced decision-making capabilities, due to cognitive and behavioural exhaustion
  • Negative team impacts, including heightened levels of stress, anxiety and conflict amongst employees
  • Rising cynicism and negativity within leadership teams – which has a ripple effect downwards
  • Decreased manager performance, which in some cases is leading to significant financial losses

Yes, HR practitioners have been struggling to address these problems. Unfortunately training and teambuilding sessions haven’t shifted the trend significantly. This is because such quick fixes don’t address the three real key causes of managers’ fatigue. These are subtle and intangible, but they can have a huge impact on the health and productivity of managers, business owners and leaders.

Toxic emotion buffering

This is one of the most unseen aspects of managerial work. It involves mitigating the toxic emotions that arise in teams on a regular basis. Examples of toxic emotion buffering work include managing heated arguments between colleagues, coaching stressed or unhappy employees and responding to ‘testing behaviours’ in disgruntled teams. Doing this on a regular basis takes an emotional toll and leads to leader fatigue over the long term.

Complexity overload

This means having too much information to handle at once.  If you feel overwhelmed by the number of decisions that need to be made each day, you know all about it! Setting boundaries can help here, but many frontline managers or business owners find this difficult. As a result, they become overstretched, leading to more stress and leader fatigue in the long run.

 

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Leader loneliness

This happens because managers and business owners must maintain confidentiality whilst managing the demands of their roles. Juggling the people side of business with bottom line pressures can be very isolating, leading to high levels of stress and leader fatigue. Add to this reduced professional development budgets, which means less access to professional coaching, and you have the ideal conditions for a spike in leader loneliness.

The good news is there are solutions for the leader fatigue problem. If you want to reduce the toll of emotional buffering, complexity overload and leader loneliness, stay in touch. I’ll be discussing practical solutions to these issues in upcoming videos and articles.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

 

 

 

Small rewards (like chocolate) can anchor confidence

Need confidence? Give yourself a chocolate. You’ve probably heard about the benefits of rewards for motivation. A new breakthrough in neuroscience suggests that rewards can also boost confidence. Giving yourself a small reward can train the brain to feel more confident.

A group of researchers published their findings from a recent study on using rewards to manipulate the brain. The researchers wanted to determine if self-confidence can be amplified directly in the brain. They explain that self-confidence is an essential quality to succeed in the modern world. Self-confidence may also help decrease the risk of mental illnesses, such as Alzheimer’s disease and depression.

To complete the study, the researchers developed a unique method for reading and amplifying the brain. The method is called ‘decoded neurofeedback’. It involves mapping specific patterns in the brain linked to an individual’s feelings of confidence. The researchers used this technique to scan the brain and determine whether a participant is experiencing a high or low confidence state.

Participants were unaware of the nature of the study. They were instructed to perform a simple perceptual task. When a high confidence state was detected, the researchers gave the participant a small monetary reward. At the end of the training session, participants were asked to rate their confidence in completing the task. Participants were consistently more confident after receiving the rewards.

Researchers could also reverse the effects. By withholding rewards, they could lower the confidence of the participant. They essentially proved that it’s possible to train the brain to be more confident or less confident with a simple reward system. Keep in mind that the study was limited in scope. The study involved just 17 volunteers. However, it’s in line with the results of similar studies.

Research shows that a reward system helps drive motivation. It can also boost your confidence. If you’re an ambitious professional, your confidence influences career ambitions. Low self-confidence tends to lead to a feeling of inadequacy. You may start to feel unworthy of your job title. We call this imposter syndrome.

Giving yourself small rewards may offer a boost of confidence, but it may not be enough to beat imposter syndrome. To build authentic confidence, you need to get to the root of your insecurities. One solution is to reframe negative thought patterns using the latest neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) techniques.

So, should you start rewarding yourself to increase your confidence? It’s a good start, but you should also explore additional confidence-building methods. For example, a reward may not train the brain to overcome major fears and insecurities. To explore other techniques for a more confident mind, learn about my one-to-one coaching and online courses at https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au.

 

 

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Three signs that low confidence is really learned helplessness

Confidence is a key ingredient for success, but unfortunately, many people secretly struggle with self-doubt and feelings of low confidence. This can be due to a number of factors, including learned helplessness. This mindset stems from feeling like you’re constantly facing negative outcomes. You may start to doubt yourself and your abilities, leading to a sense of helplessness. Thankfully, no one is truly helpless. Understanding how learned helplessness feeds low confidence will help you tackle self-doubt head on. Don’t give up! Confidence problems can be solved. In this two-minute video from Eleanor Shakiba, you will learn how Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help beat imposter syndrome and build authentic confidence.

 

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Want to be a fearless leader?

This video comes with a free ebook, Beat Imposter Syndrome. Get your copy here. https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au/beat-imposter-syndrome-ebook-2/ Did you know fear can be beneficial for leaders?  In this thought-provoking video, Eleanor Shakiba points out that many leaders confuse confidence and fearlessness – and this can hold you back if you are one of these leaders.  Well-managed fear can provide benefits such as motivation, improved decision making and increased vigilance when managed well. Therefore, it’s better for managers and business owners to harness fear rather than trying to eliminate it.

 

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5 ways science can improve your focus

Can you really improve your focus at work? Recent research gives some interesting insights into how you can do this.  Are you constantly switching between tasks and finding it difficult to stay on track? If so, you’re not alone. In a recent article published by the BBC, here some tips for improving focus and productivity in the workplace.

 

The first tip is to break up your workday into smaller chunks. Instead of trying to work for eight hours straight, break it up into four two-hour sessions with a break in between. This will help keep your mind fresh and focused.

The second tip is to establish specific times for checking email and social media. Checking these things constantly can be extremely distracting, so try to limit yourself to just twice a day.

The third tip is to take a break every hour. Get up and move around, go for a walk or drink some water. This will help refresh your mind and make you more productive when you return to your work. The fourth tip is to create a distraction-free workspace. This means turning off all distractions (cell phone, TV, etc.) and focusing on one task at a time. The fifth and final tip is to set goals for yourself. Instead of just working on whatever comes your way, try setting specific goals for each day and week. This will help keep you focused and motivated.

These five tips are simple but effective ways to help improve your focus at work. If you’re having trouble staying productive, give them a try! They may just be what you need to get the job done.

 

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Taking regular breaks throughout the day gives your brain a chance to refresh and recharge, which can help improve focus and productivity in the long run. Try setting goals for yourself and tracking your progress over time. This helps you stay accountable and motivated and prevents you from becoming overwhelmed.

It is important that we foster a productive work environment for our employees. By following the simple steps, we can create an environment that is conducive to focus and productivity. And who knows? Maybe we’ll even be able to improve our own productivity in the process!

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20170925-the-surprising-tricks-to-help-you-focus-at-work

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Beat stage fright with 1:1 coaching

If fear is keeping you from achieving your dreams, try one-on-one coaching. Everyone experiences fear, including high-achieving professionals. Fear is a natural emotion. Luckily, you can learn to keep fear from taking over. Personalised coaching with NLP techniques can change your thinking. You’ll learn how to stay calm and anchor yourself in positive thoughts.

Leadership roles often involve presentations and speaking in front of groups. Coaching can help you overcome your stage fright. Learn to become a more confident speaker. Schedule your coaching session with Eleanor Shakiba to get started.

 

The chameleon who refused to blend in. A story for leaders.

If you’re someone who wants to make a difference, yet is afraid to stand out, I want to share a favourite childhood story with you today. In fact, it’s the story that inspired my ideas about Chameleon Syndrome, which is a leading cause of imposter thinking and low confidence in managers and business owners today. If your management career has stalled, there’s a good chance this frustrating syndrome is impacting your thinking.

Once upon a time…

Once upon a time, there lived a small but determined chameleon who dared to dream of something greater than the mundane life she had been living. She longed to live life to the fullest and take risks, unlike all the other chameleons who simply blended in with their surroundings and never stood out.

One day, the chameleon decided to take a leap of faith and explore the world around her. She set out on an adventurous journey. Of course, she encountered many exciting sights and experiences. She came across ideas she had never been exposed to before. She visited vast forests and towering mountains, crossed streams and raging rivers, navigated through deserts and lush jungles. With every step and every experience, the chameleon learned and evolved. Each day she grew brighter, more radiant and more colourful.

But those changes  also meant she became a target for criticism and gossip.  Her family and her colleagues were taken aback by her boldness and vibrant appearance. When she zoomed into meeting, they assumed she must be up to no good, since her actions strayed so far from the norm for an upstanding chameleon. Her friends openly mocked her for being different and daring to be herself. Despite all the naysayers, the gutsy chameleon continued on her journey. She was determined to live in full colour and never  again let anyone else dictate how she lived or worked. Her battle with imposter syndrome was over!

 

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After many adventures – and some misadventures  – the chameleon arrived at a beautiful city on the top of a mountain. As she entered the town gates, she heard folks shouting in panic. She quickly learned that all the town’s power had been cut off. To make matters worse, a huge passenger plane was due to land any minute. But how would the pilot touch down without any lights to guide her? Lives were at stake and no-one knew what to do.

Thank goodness the chameleon had learned to stand out! She made herself shine brightly, becoming a beacon of hope. The plane landed safely due to the chameleon’s unique skill. Everyone cheered and the chameleon realised something important:  only those who dare to be different can make a real difference.

From that day on, she chose to be uniquely herself and never blend in again. And she’s not the only one who can do that:  you too can be brave and stand out. The future is bright if you choose to shine, too

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

 

 

 

5 thinking habits that block success

Do you know how your brain is sabotaging your success? You may be surprised. According to this article, there are five cognitive biases that can block your success. These are sunk cost fallacy, confirmation bias, self-serving bias, winner’s curse, and survivorship bias.

The first bias is the sunk cost fallacy. This is the belief that you’ve invested so much time and money into a project that you can’t give up on it. The sunk cost fallacy can lead to bad decision-making and prevent you from moving on to better opportunities. The second bias is loss aversion. This is the fear of losing something you already have. Loss aversion can lead to hesitation and indecision, which can prevent you from taking action.

The third bias is confirmation bias. This is the tendency to favour information that confirms our beliefs and ignore information that contradicts them. Confirmation bias can lead to poor decision-making and prevent you from considering all possible options. The fourth bias is overconfidence. This is the belief that you’re better than you really are. Overconfidence can lead to unrealistic expectations and poor decision-making.

The fifth bias is sunk cost fallacy 2.0 (or escalation of commitment). This is the tendency to keep investing in a project or idea even when it’s no longer viable. Escalation of commitment can lead to wasted resources and bad decision-making. Each of these biases can be a roadblock to our success. However, by recognising them and taking steps to overcome them, you can move closer to achieving your goals.

 

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So what can you do about these cognitive biases? Managers, business owners and supervisors should be aware of these biases because they can lead to bad decisions that harm the business. The best way to deal with them is to become aware of them and acknowledge that they exist. Once you’re aware of your own biases, you can start making an effort to counteract them. For example, you can try to take a step back and look at situations from different perspectives, or you can ask others for their opinions before making decisions. You can also make a point of gathering data from multiple sources before coming to any conclusions. And finally, you can practice mindfulness, which will help us stay aware of your thoughts and feelings as they happen and keep them from impacting your judgment.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.forbes.com/sites/carminegallo/2021/09/27/5-cognitive-biases-blocking-your-success/?sh=5f6227282402

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Confidence is NOT fearlessness

So many talented people are held back by a secret lack of confidence. They avoid new challenges and opportunities, because they’re afraid of failing or looking foolish. For these people, it’s hard to try something new or speak up and lead. Fear can keep us stuck in our ways, which is bad for our careers, relationship and overall happiness. But there is some good news. You can be confident even if you are sometimes scared or worried. Watch this two-minute video from Eleanor Shakiba to learn how Neuro Linguistic Programming can help high achievers create deep, authentic confidence and beat imposter syndrome once and for all.

 

 

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