How ‘liking’ gaps feed low confidence

People probably think of you more positively than you think of yourself. A recent article on the Psychology Today website discusses this phenomenon and its potential implications for managers and business owners.

The article cites a study that found that people tend to view others more positively than they view themselves. This is likely because you are your own harshest critics and you often focus on your flaws. As a result, you may underestimate how other people see us. This has important implications for those in leadership positions. If you don’t believe in yourself, it can be difficult to inspire others to do their best work. You need to be confident and optimistic if you want to lead others effectively.

One suggestion is to focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Another suggestion is to practice self-compassion. When you make a mistake, be kind to yourself and learn from the experience.  Self-confidence is an important quality for any leader, but it is especially important in today’s uncertain world. Leaders need to be positive and optimistic, even when things are tough. If you can learn to like and believe in yourself, you will be better equipped to lead others through challenging times.

When meeting someone for the first time, it is important to be aware of their body language and to act in a way that makes them feel comfortable. It is also important to be genuine and authentic in one’s interactions, as this will make others more likely to like and trust you.

 

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Negative self-talk can lead to employees feeling insecure and anxious, while positive self-talk can lead to employees feeling empowered and motivated. Managers should also be mindful of the way they deliver feedback. Giving feedback in a way that focuses on the employee’s strengths rather than their weaknesses will be more motivating and encourage them to continue growing and developing their skills. By paying attention to both positive and negative feedback, you can learn from both kinds of information. And by focusing on your strengths rather than your weaknesses, you can increase your self-confidence and improve your relationships with others.

Find out more in the original article here:  https://www-psychologytoday-com.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happy-trails/202209/why-people-probably-you-more-you-think?amp

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Do this to switch from self-conscious to self-assured

Are your feelings of self-consciousness holding you back from reaching your potential as a manager, business owner, or supervisor? If so, this article from the Bustle provides seven helpful tips on how to stop feeling self-conscious and take the necessary steps for professional success.

The article offers an important reminder that we all feel self-conscious at times. It’s normal and completely understandable that we may be hesitant to take risks or put ourselves out there—after all, it can be intimidating knowing that our successes and failures are visible to others. Thankfully, this gives us practical advice on how to set aside our insecurities and focus on genuine growth instead.

The article discusses seven tips for overcoming feelings of self-consciousness:

  • practice mindfulness
  • have clear goals
  • build confidence through small successes
  • focus on others’ needs
  • limit social media activity
  • don’t compare yourself with others
  • remind yourself why you’re doing it

These are all key elements of effective leadership. Mindfulness allows leaders to remain aware of their surroundings while also staying grounded in their own purpose; having clear goals helps them stay motivated even when things get tough; building confidence through small successes is essential for increasing the morale of those around them; focusing on the needs of their team members facilitates strong interpersonal relationships; limiting their use of social media encourages them to practice responsible digital citisenship habits; refraining from comparing themselves with others prevents them from becoming discouraged by unrealistic standards of success or comparisonitis–the habit of comparing one’s abilities and achievements with those around them–and reminding themselves why they’re doing something reinforces their dedication to the cause.

 

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By following each of these tips in turn, managers, business owners, and supervisors can develop the mental strength needed to lead confidently without feeling the need to constantly second guess themselves.

This article provides valuable insight into how managers, business owners, and supervisors can achieve success despite feeling self-conscious about their skillset at times. By taking each tip into consideration—from practicing mindfulness to availing oneself of expert guidance—individuals can become better leaders who cultivate lasting relationships with those around them instead of allowing fears about failing keep them from reaching their true potential.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.bustle.com/articles/143401-7-tips-on-how-to-stop-feeling-self-conscious

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Who invented self-esteem?

Self-esteem impacts almost every aspect of your life, including your confidence and motivation. Yet, people haven’t always worried about their self-esteem. The idea that your happiness and performance are linked to your self-esteem is a relatively recent concept, but it’s an important one to understand.

When did we become so obsessed with self-esteem? According to an in-depth article from Belinda Drummond on the work of Glynn Harrison, the modern self-esteem movement started in the 1960s. Harrison explains in his book The Big Ego Trip that the ’60s led to a shift from prioritising the needs of others to focusing on your own happiness.

This period also marked the rise of psychology as a scientific discipline. Psychologists could use self-esteem to compare and analyse the results of their research. Self-esteem gave psychology a way to achieve greater credibility. Society embraced the idea of helping oneself before trying to help others. The concept of putting others first became less desirable.

Self-esteem was the focus of the work for many leading psychologists of the 1970s. As the decades wore on, self-esteem and psychology became part of popular culture. However, Harrison also points out that the concept of self-esteem is not evidence-based. It’s also very fluid. Your self-esteem may go up or down depending on how your day goes, making self-worth a more vital part of your wellbeing.

Self-worth allows you to accept that you’re a valuable human being, providing a stable base for building more self-esteem. Based on Harrison’s research, modern psychology is closely connected to the exploration of self-esteem. Both are now a much more integral part of how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. Read the original article here.

So, why does self-esteem matter? Your self-esteem influences your happiness, wellbeing, and confidence. As a confidence coach, I’ve also seen how a lack of self-esteem tends to sink motivation. If you don’t believe in yourself, you’re less likely to maintain your motivation during a challenging task. You may feel that you don’t deserve success or that success is beyond your reach.

Low self-esteem often stems from fear. You may fear criticism, failure, rejection, or embarrassment. Neuro-linguistic programming gives you the tools to manage your fear by reframing your inner dialogue. You can learn how to use self-compassion to give yourself stable self-worth, instead of focusing on your self-esteem.

The self-esteem movement came to life in the 1960s and remains an important part of modern psychology. Increasing your self-esteem could unlock your full potential. If you currently lack self-esteem or feel like an imposter in the workplace, it’s time to explore the right solution. Learn how to beat imposter syndrome with my one-to-one coaching or online courses at https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au.

 

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5 tips for (re)building hope

Can hope be cultivated? According to the article “Harvesting Hope” on Psychology Today, it can. The article outlines five useful tips for cultivating hope, which is helpful for managers, business owners and supervisors.

The first tip is to create a hopeful vision. This involves looking at the possibilities of the future and thinking about what success could look like. It is important to remain optimistic and focus on taking action toward that goal rather than dwelling on the negative aspects of the situation.

Second, use positive language when discussing situations. Reframing challenges as opportunities and avoiding phrases such as “I can’t” or “It’s impossible”. This will help to maintain an upbeat attitude and inspire those around you.

Third, creating meaningful connections with colleagues and colleagues through support networks, mentorships, partnering with clients and other activities that create a sense of connection. This will help build an environment of trust and collaboration between team members, which can be a powerful source of hope in difficult times.

 

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Fourth, the importance of celebrating successes – no matter how small they may seem – as this will give everyone involved a boost of energy and motivation to keep going. Finally, setting personal goals that are achievable yet challenging enough to provide a sense of accomplishment when achieved.

By utilising these five tips, you can help promote a sense of hope in yourself and the people around you. When faced with challenges, try to focus on solutions and possibilities rather than dwelling on the negatives – this will help to create a more optimistic outlook for everyone involved.  With hope comes confidence and resilience; this is essential for making progress in any situation.  Cultivating hope is not an easy process, but it can be done by remaining mindful and open to possibilities.

By creating a hopeful vision, using positive language , building meaningful connections with their teams , celebrating successes ,and setting achievable yet challenging goals , leaders can instill an atmosphere of optimism and resilience among their staff . To learn more about cultivating hope readers can sign up to Success Tips for Leaders service .

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/what-doesnt-kill-us/201206/harvesting-hope

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

2 ways to banish your fear of criticism

Do you ever feel intimidated by fear of criticism? Despite the fact that nobody likes to be criticised, it still happens in every workplace. In this article “2 Ways to Move Past Your Fear of Being Criticized,” provides a valuable insight into how people can come to terms with this often uncomfortable and discouraging emotion.

The article highlights two different techniques for tackling your fear of criticism: confronting your own inner critic head-on, and embracing the learning opportunities presented by constructive criticism. Through self-reflection and learning from our mistakes, you can ultimately learn to be more resilient in the face of criticism.

The article also stresses the importance of developing mental strategies to help you manage your emotions when faced with criticism. It encourages us to practice self-compassion and recognise that everyone makes mistakes. Additionally, it emphasises the importance of staying focused on our goals and not letting fear or criticism get in the way of personal growth.

 

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For managers, business owners, and supervisors this is an especially important topic to consider as it’s often their job to provide feedback or criticism to their employees. Taking these bits of advice on board could help them provide constructive criticism without causing unnecessary distress or paranoia among their staff. Not only will it make the interaction easier but it could also lead to more meaningful feedback that could help improve employee performance and workplace morale in the long run.

Ultimately, this article provides valuable insight into how to effectively manage criticism and turn it into something positive. By confronting our inner critic and embracing the learning opportunities that come from constructive feedback, we can use criticism as a means for personal growth and improved performance in any workplace.

This is a great way for business owners looking for additional support when managing their team or giving out critical feedback as it can help them do so in a way that is both effective and nurturing.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/social-instincts/202211/2-ways-move-past-your-fear-being-criticized

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Surprising benefits of saying “I don’t know” at work

Everyone has moments where they feel inadequate. Yet, most people try to hide those feelings under a mask of false confidence. This is called the imposter syndrome and it affects over 70% of the population. A recent article on the topic helps shed light on the causes of imposter syndrome and how to conquer it.

So, what is the key to beating imposter syndrome? First, you need to understand where it comes from. The term imposter syndrome was coined by clinical psychologists Dr. Pauline Clance and Dr. Suzanne Imes in 1978. Dr. Valerie Young expanded upon their research by identifying five types of impostors: the soloist, the perfectionist, the natural genius, the superman/woman, and the expert.

The perfectionist feels as if giving 99% isn’t enough. According to Dr. Young, perfectionists need to understand that perfectionism inhibits success and not everything deserves 100%. The expert feels that they always need to acquire more knowledge. Yet, there is no end to knowledge.

The natural genius assumes that confidence and intelligence are natural traits that you’re born with. They need to realise that nothing is fixed. The soloist only feels competent when they complete tasks without help. However, smart people seek help from those who know more. The superman/woman feels that they must excel at everything instead of slowing down.

 

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All five types of impostors benefit from reframing, which is a common practice in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). The best way to stop feeling like an impostor is to reframe your thoughts. The next time that you feel inadequate, stop, and imagine how someone with more confidence may feel in that same moment. You can distance yourself from your feelings and reframe them from someone else’s perspective.

Imposter syndrome directly impacts your performance in the workplace. Instead of faking it until you make it, try admitting that you don’t have all the answers. You can say “no” and “I don’t know” occasionally. No one expects you to know everything.

I find that this is an especially important lesson for high achievers, leaders, and other professionals. Letting others know that you don’t know everything makes you more relatable. It can also go a long way toward boosting the confidence of subordinates.

According to Dr. Young, it’s also important to recognise that you can’t eliminate all feelings of inadequacy. Neuro-linguistic programming techniques provide a way to reframe your thinking. With practice, you can learn to normalise your feelings and stop holding yourself to unrealistic standards.

For those who want to act now, I recommend practicing saying “I don’t know.” Feel free to admit when you don’t have a solution. If you want additional tips on how to beat imposter syndrome, I’m ready to help. Take a moment to learn more about my one-to-one coaching and online courses at https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au.

 

Surprising ways nostalgia is good for us

Are the toughest challenges in life really within our own minds? This question is a common theme throughout the 10 Ways You’re Stronger Than You Think article from Psychology Today. In this piece, the author examines the power of nostalgia and how it can help people overcome self-doubt and build resilience. It argues that by recalling happy memories and moments of joy, we can tap into personal strengths that have been lying dormant, allowing us to face difficult situations with greater strength and courage.

Exploring what nostalgia is, outlining its definition as a sentimental yearning for the past or feelings of longing for an idealized past. The writer goes on to explain how nostalgia has been proven to be helpful in difficult times, providing a sense of meaning and purpose through remembering pleasant memories.  It highlights the science behind the power of nostalgia, and explains how it can help us build our resilience.

The article also examines the importance of self-affirmation in challenging times, arguing that by recognizing our personal strengths we can better cope with difficult situations. It looks at how we can use affirmations to remind ourselves of our worth and potential.

 

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Managers, business owners and supervisors who often find themselves facing numerous challenges on a daily basis. By using the strategies discussed in this piece, leaders can tap into their hidden reserves of strength in order to better cope with uncertainty or fear during tough times. Additionally, they can draw upon happy memories which will provide them with comfort while helping them remain focused on their goals despite any obstacles they may face along the way.

This empowering program offers guidance on how to use one’s own experiences as fuel for personal growth. It provides tools for building resilience so that individuals can face present struggles with confidence knowing that they have overcome similar hardships before.

In summary, 10 Ways You’re Stronger Than You Think is an inspiring article that explores how nostalgia can give us access to untapped reserves of strength when we need it most. The strategies outlined offer practical advice which is especially useful for managers, business owners and supervisors looking for ways to cope with challenging circumstances while remaining focused on their goals despite any obstacles they may encounter along their journey.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/articles/202203/10-ways-youre-stronger-than-you-think

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Fire up your motivation today

Feeling exhausted and burned out? That can change today. Most people believe that motivation is directly linked to the state of mental energy. They believe that once your body and mind are at their peak physical and mental states, you’re motivated to go through the ups and downs of daily life. But new research shows the opposite. Your brain is as powerful at creating and inducing motivation as it is at turning on and off your motivation. It has as much to do with your emotions and the stories you tell yourself as it does about your level of physical energy.

Whether you’re someone who seeks extra energy or motivation, this simple 2-step guide will help you to reverse a stressful habit and start taking charge of your own life.

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  • Start small. The best way to manage your emotions is to start with something that’s manageable. It’s better to take the small steps that you need to get started than to give up on something big. Choose a small goal today and set about doing it. This will make you feel like you’ve accomplished something – and you’ll build motivation from that point on.
  • Make some changes. Change your exercise routine, increase the amount of exercise you do or try something new, like aerobic exercise. If you have a hard time getting up and going out, plan a morning routine that helps you get out of bed on time.
  • When you are motivated, you tend to be more positive about your future and what you want to achieve. So, power up your motivation today!

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    Beat imposter syndrome and lead without fear

    Ever feel like an impostor? You’re not alone. Most people feel unworthy of their success at some point in their careers. Yet, it’s especially harmful to leaders. It impacts everything from employee morale to time management. Luckily, anyone can learn to beat imposter syndrome.

    According to an article published in the Harvard Business Review, imposter syndrome is a common problem for C-suite professionals. Managers and leaders often doubt their abilities and self-worth. Manfred FR Kets de Vries, the author of the article, explains that feelings of self-doubt are less pressing when they come from someone lower on the totem pole. However, when you reach a position with more responsibilities, your insecurities become more visible.

    Fortunately, the article provides three solutions for overcoming the uncertainty associated with imposter syndrome. First, you should strategise vulnerability. This means that you should be willing to fail. Your vulnerability should be open for others to see, as it helps humanise you. The author also recommends greater transparency and open communication among team members.

    The second solution is to promote problem-solving. Encouraging others to solve problems reduces your burden and stress. It’s a form of delegation, which also shows that you believe in the skills and abilities of your staff. This reinforces their confidence, which helps keep imposter syndrome from spreading to your team.

    The third solution is to make questions more commonplace. Ask questions and invite others to ask questions. Questions encourage an environment of learning. You should accept that you don’t have the answers to everything. Be prepared to ask others for help when there is a gap in your knowledge. According to the article, leaders can also use these techniques to address imposter syndrome among their team members.

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    Imposter syndrome is a drain on your self-esteem and confidence. As explained in the article, vulnerability can help leaders feel less as if they are imposters. However, I also find that high achievers struggle to be vulnerable. You don’t want to be perceived as a failure, which comes from a place of fear.

    Recognising that you cannot control what others think is a good first step in dealing with fear. You should also take the time to list your positive abilities and traits. You can use them as anchors to remind yourself of your worth when you feel as if you are an imposter.

    Over 70% of people experience feelings of inadequacy. When these feelings occur in the workplace, you may start to think of yourself as an imposter. As the author of Beat Imposter Syndrome, I can help. Find out about my one-to-one coaching and online courses at https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au.