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6 ways to think about time… and how they impact your confidence

Does your constant planning keep you from getting anything done in the present? Does your frequent worrying about the past keep you from trying new things? These are examples of how your perspective of time can impact your confidence. Thanks to research published on PsychologyToday.com, you can now gain a better perspective.

Everyone has a different perspective when it comes to the passage of time. Some people are more worried about the past while others focus on the future. According to Rosemary KM Sword and Philip Zimbardo PhD, these differences impact every aspect of your life.

The authors categorise people based on their time perspective. Someone who is ‘past negative’ tends to focus on negative events or thoughts from the past. This may include traumatic events or moments of failure. The negative thoughts tend to keep them from seeing a brighter future.

Someone who is ‘present fatalistic’ is rooted in the present but believes that they’ve got no control over their environment. As with past negative people, present fatalistic people tend to suffer from low self-esteem. They struggle to see their own self-worth. The authors also describe ‘extreme future’ people. This group includes people that are too busy planning to enjoy the present. All three of the time perspectives discussed can limit your opportunities.

So, what’s the best time perspective? The authors argue that the best perspective is balanced. When your time perspective is balanced, you can use your imagination in exciting new ways. You spend less time dwelling on negative thoughts from the past and fears of the future.

The authors used their theories to help treat war veterans suffering from posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). However, balancing your time perspective is beneficial for everyone. Whether you’re more focused on the past, present, or future, your time perspective may be holding you back.

As mentioned in the article, the best perspective is a balanced one. The authors of the article also offer a few examples of how to balance your perspective. If you’re stuck in the past, you need to replace your negative memories with positive ones.

If you’re stuck in the present and feel that you’ve got no control over anything, you may also start to feel like an imposter. Try practicing more self-compassion. Give yourself the freedom to enjoy fun activities and accept yourself for how you are. Several of these suggestions align with common neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) techniques.

Changing the way you think about the past, present, and future could hold the key to your happiness. Your time perspective largely influences your confidence. If you want to learn more about how to beat imposter syndrome, explore my one-to-one coaching and online courses at https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au.

 

 

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Over-thinking: the curse of the ‘imposter leader’

Attention managers. Feeling like you’re not really qualified to lead your team can be incredibly stressful. It causes rumination and over-thinking. And that feeds imposter syndrome. But there is a way to build authentic confidence as a leader. By changing out-dated thinking habits and responses to change, leaders can thrive and succeed. Without feeling like a fake. In this inspiring video, NLP coach Eleanor Shakiba explains how to use Neuro Linguistic Programming to quit the rumination habit and build deep confidence. Eleanor offers a great explanation of the role over-thinking plays in imposter syndrome and how to overcome it. Yes! With self-awareness and practice, you can build complete confidence and stop letting self-doubt get in the way of success.

 

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3 habits of leaders who make a difference

This video comes with a free ebook, Beat Imposter Syndrome. Get your copy here. https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au/beat-imposter-syndrome-ebook-2/ Leadership is not just about giving orders and expecting people to follow them – it’s about having an influence that inspires others. Learn 3 habits of successful leaders, so you can have a positive impact on those around you. Find out how to think strategically and speak influentially so your words have more power, learn how being confident can help you stand out from the crowd and discover how to  focus on what matters, instead of getting bogged down or overwhelmed by ‘urgent’ issues.

 

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3 ways your mind distorts thoughts about the future

What are futures fallacies, and why do they matter for managers? Futures fallacies are beliefs or perceptions about the future that influence our decisions in the present, but they’re not always accurate. For example, just because you believe that the future will be a certain way, doesn’t mean that it will be.

There are three main futures fallacies: survivorship bias, technological determinism, and paradigm paralysis. Survivorship bias is when you think that something is more successful than it really is, because you only see the successes and not the failures. Technological determinism is when you think that technology will inevitably lead to certain outcomes, and paradigm paralysis is when you can’t make decisions because you don’t know what the future will hold.

For managers, business owners, and supervisors, it’s important to be aware of these fallacies and learn how to avoid them. By doing so, you can make better decisions based on a more accurate understanding of the future. So, what can you do to protect yourself from these fallacies?

  1. Be Aware: The first step is to be aware of the biases that can affect our decision-making. This includes knowing what they are, how they work, and when they are likely to pop up.
  2. Question Your Assumptions: Don’t just accept things at face value. When making decisions, ask yourself whether your assumptions are reasonable and whether there is evidence to support them.
  3. Use Data-Driven Decision-Making: Use data whenever possible to back up your decisions. This will help reduce the effects of bias and emotion on your decision-making process.
  4. Seek Expert Opinion: Get input from experts who can help you understand complex situations and make better decisions.
  5. Practice Critical Thinking: Train yourself to be skeptical of information and don’t take anything at face value. Ask questions and probe beneath the surface to get a better understanding of what is really going on.

 

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These fallacies can have a big impact on our work. For example, if you think that technology is going to automate all our jobs, you might not invest in training or development. Or if you think that the future is going to be full of uncertainty, you might hesitate to make any decisions at all.

By following these tips, you can reduce the chances of being led astray by futures fallacies and make better decisions for our businesses and our lives.

Find out more in the original article here: https://jfsdigital.org/articles-and-essays/vol-25-no-4-june-2021/futures-fallacies-what-they-are-and-what-we-can-do-about-them/

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Set limits with difficult people

Tired of letting others control your behaviour? You need to read Difficult People Made Easy by Eleanor Shakiba. It’s your ultimate guide for solving your biggest people problems. Receive practical advice for dealing with any workplace situation. Learn to deal with pushy, controlling, and toxic people. You’ll find out how to boost your confidence using tried-and-tested NLP techniques.

The step-by-step instructions ensure that anyone can be confident in the workplace. Difficult People Made Easy is a comprehensive resource for high-achieving professionals. Order your copy today to embark on a new, confident chapter in your career.

 

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4 sure-fire signs you’re overworking

Ironically, I wrote this at 2 a.m. However, it is still an important point for you take on. If you believe successful managers and business owners are constantly busy, think again. Yes, many people feel they should work 24/7 and they must be constantly focused on success. There’s a name for this feeling: “imposter syndrome” and it is the biggest cause of overwork in managers and business owners today. High-impact leaders DO NOT MAKE OVERWORKING A HABIT. Instead, they use three core habits to stay focused on making a difference.

It’s time to get real. Being busy is NOT a sign you’re successful. In fact, it’s a sign you’re ineffective. High-impact leaders don’t have mile-long to do lists or fully booked diaries. Instead, they have strategic plans and  to- notch teams. You can’t have either of those things if you’re overworking. But how can you tell if you ARE overworking? Here are the top  4 signs I advise  my clients to watch out for.

The to-do list that never ends

This is a sure sign you’re working reactively. You see, effective leaders don’t ever use To Do Llists. They use plans. What’s the difference? To Do  lists are made up on the fly. Plans are well thought out and developed in advance.

Staying switched on 24/7

The second sign you’re overworking is struggling to wind down after work. This is really common problem for high-achieving people. However, it is not a badge of honour! If you’re constantly thinking about work. it’s a sign you’re overworking. You need to stop now. Go back to your hobbies, your family or your friends. Believe me, you can still succeed even when you are human! All it takes is confidence and assertiveness!

 

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Feeling resentful and put-out

Yep. It is  less obvious, but it is still a sign you’re overworking. For example, it might seem like you’re the only person who is committed to doing a good job. If you’re feeling this way, you’re probably taking too much on and working excessive hours. Sound familiar?

Knowing you’re overworking

The fourth sign you’re overworked in  bleeding obvious: you know you’re overworked. Sadly, many talented managers and professionals e keep going despite this realisation. Eeek! I can tell you this a guaranteed way to burn yourself out.

So, how do you slow down and stop overworking? Learn to drive your own brain. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP is a great tool for doing this).  With NLP, you can manage your own thinking and emotional states. You can quit handling everything yourself and stop feeling like an imposter. So, if the 4 symptoms of overwork resonate for you, act now. Learn some NLP and focus on having an impact instead of being busy 24/7.

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Is innovation stress burning out your team?

In our fast-paced and constantly-evolving world, it’s no wonder that innovation stress is one of the most commonly reported workplace issues. In this article, it outlines five ways to deal with innovation stress in the workplace.

The first method is to take a break. When you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed or stressed out, take a few minutes to step away from the situation and clear your head. This can help you to approach the problem with fresh eyes later on. The second suggestion is to set realistic goals. Don’t try to accomplish too much at once; instead, break down your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. This will help to reduce stress and allow you to focus on one task at a time.

The third tip is to create a support network. When you have people who understand what you’re going through and can offer helpful advice and encouragement, it can make the journey a lot easier. Fourth, stay organised. This includes both your physical and mental space; try to keep your work area tidy and make a list of things that need to be done so that you don’t feel overwhelmed.

 

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Finally, take care of yourself both physically and mentally. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eat healthy foods, and take some time for yourself every day to relax and recharge. When employees feel like they’re being given the tools they need to succeed, they’re less likely to feel overwhelmed or stressed out.

By setting clear goals and expectations, you can help employees to stay focused and motivated. By encouraging creativity and risk-taking, you can help them to think outside the box and come up with new ideas. By promoting work-life balance, you can help them to maintain a healthy balance between their personal and professional lives. By building a positive team culture, you can help employees to feel supported and appreciated. And by managing stress levels effectively, you can help them to stay calm and productive under pressure.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.europeanceo.com/business-and-management/top-5-ways-to-tackle-innovation-stress-in-the-workplace/

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Savvy leaders don’t ask why

This video comes with a free ebook, The Positive Psychology Toolkit. Get your copy here. https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au/pp-toolkit-download/ In this inspiring video, leadership trainer Eleanor Shakiba explains how the people of Albury used an Impact Thinking Process to prevent a plane crash. She covers the five steps they applied to design a solution under pressure. Then she explains how using these steps helps managers and business owners become leaders who make a difference. These steps are easy to follow and can be used in any situation where an out-of-the-box solution is needed. Watch this video to learn how to think like a high impact leader!

 

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Command attention with persuasive words

Have you ever struggled to convince someone to do something that you think is the right decision? If so, then understanding persuasive writing techniques becomes incredibly important. This article in Conversions Sciences discusses the science of persuasion and outlines nine key tactics that can be used when trying to get someone to agree with your opinion.

The article explains how any manager, business owner or supervisor should always strive for credibility and trust when crafting persuasive messages. It also stresses the importance of understanding who your audience is in order to craft an argument tailored specifically for them. As well as this, it suggests using storytelling as a method of delivering your message as it allows people to relate more effectively and understand why doing something is beneficial for them.

The power of consistency and commitment when convincing someone. It is important to show evidence-based proof of your claims, while also making sure your requests are more likely to be fulfilled if they are able to be done quickly and easily. Additionally, she advises using scarcity tactics, anchoring effects and personalisation whenever possible. All these points help build momentum which increases the chance of persuasion success.

The article concludes by reminding managers that persuasion isn’t about manipulation or tricking people into doing things; instead, it’s about finding creative ways to communicate ideas in a way that resonates with their goals and needs. In order for any message or request be effective it needs to demonstrate value and make clear why following through on something is worthwhile in the long run. Being aware of these techniques can help leaders get better results from their teams or even customers.

 

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Persuasion isn’t just an art; it’s backed up by science too!  By understanding persuasive writing techniques, managers and business owners can craft arguments that are more likely to be accepted by their intended audience. Understanding your goals and the needs of your audience is the first step in creating a successful persuasive message that drives desired outcomes.

Using these strategies will help you effectively create a persuasive argument and get people to agree with your opinion. Remember to focus on credibility, trust and understanding your audience when creating persuasive messages. Additionally, use storytelling and evidence-based proof whenever possible to increase the chance of persuasion success. Lastly, demonstrate value and make clear why following through on something is worthwhile in the long run.

Find out more in the original article here: https://conversionsciences.com/persuasive-writing-techniques/

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Beat stress with NLP

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The techniques help. You’ll become better at stopping your negative inner critic. You can learn to stop worrying about things you can’t control. Alter your negative thinking patterns. Instead of letting stress overwhelm your thinking, you can maintain a clear mind. Get ready to live your life with less stress. Order your copy of Have a Stress-Free Day today.