Your ‘reality’ is part perception, part brain prediction

Reality. Don’t take it for granted.  It’s easy to assume that  what you see is what you get, but that’s not really the case. Your perception of reality is shaped by a complex combination of sensory input and brain prediction. In fact, neuroscientists have found that your brain constructs your perception of reality by blending sensory input and guesswork.

For example, one study showed that  when participants were shown two different images in quick succession, their brains actually combined the two images to create a new one. This means that what you see is not always an accurate representation of what is here. Simply put, your brain forecasts what should happen, drawing on past experiences and expectations. It then moulds your perception to closely align with these predictions.

This is why you might see something  that isn’t there, like a shadowy figure in the dark. Your brain may be filling in the gaps based on previous experiences, creating an illusion of something that isn’t really present. Similarly, optical illusions work by tricking your brain into making predictions that don’t match with what is actually there.

 

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So why does your brain do this? It’s all about efficiency. After all, you’re constantly bombarded by sensory information. That means your brain needs to make quick decisions to function efficiently. By creating predictions based on past experiences, your brain can process new information faster and more effectively. The benefit is that you can make decisions and take actions in real-time without needing to analyse all the sensory input. The downside is that what you think is real may not always be accurate.

So, next time you’re certain about something, remember that your brain is just doing its best to make sense of the world. Your perception of reality is a combination of sensory input and guesswork, constantly updating and evolving based on new experiences. Keep an open mind and be aware of how your brain may be shaping your understanding of the world around you. So question everything, challenge your assumptions and embrace the ever-changing nature of your reality.

For more details about this fascinating area of study, read the source article here.

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Are your decisions as smart as you think? Perhaps not! Here’s the reason…

We all like to think we make wise decisions. From choosing washing powder to making great investment choices,  we tend to believe that our decisions are based on logical and well-thought-out reasoning. However, it turns out this is rarely the case. Indeed, many of your decisions will be impacted by cognitive  biases – which are essentially mental shortcuts that help you make decisions quickly.

A classic example is loss aversion.  This is a bias caused by the fear of losing something and it can lead to rash decisions. For example, a well-known study showed that when people lose $100 they feel the loss far more intensely than they feel joy at finding $100. In experiments, this meant that participants were more likely to take a risk with a $100 note they found than with money that they already had in their bank account.

Why was this illogical?  Because in each situation there is $100 at stake and the odds of winning or losing are exactly the same. This example demonstrates how loss aversion can overpower rational thinking and risk assessment. It also shows how framing effects can impact decision-making. In psychology, framing refers to how your perception of something is influenced by the way it is presented.

 

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Something as simple as whether a problem is framed in terms of winning or losing can radically affect your choices. For example, researchers Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky asked volunteers to choose the best treatment to offer to people with a serious disease. Two options were given. Both had identical success rates. However, Option A was framed as having a 90% success rate. Option B was described as having a 10% risk of death. Option A was chosen by most people, even though it had exactly the same outcome as option B!

This example highlights the fact that even when presented with identical information, people can be heavily influenced by how the information is framed. The good news is that recognising these biases can help you make better decisions in your personal and professional life.

Awareness is key. Once you know about cognitive biases and how they can impact decision-making, you can take steps to mitigate their effects. If you want to dive deeper into this topic, you can check out the original article here. Trust me, understanding how your choices are affected can help you make smarter decisions in all aspects of life.

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Powerful one-liners for difficult conversations

Ergh. There’s nothing worse than being stuck for words during a difficult conversation. To be assertive and empowered at work, you definitely need to know how to beat the awkward silences and hold your own. Recently I came across a useful article on this topic. It lists several one-liners which can be used to tackle different difficult situations. They are short, powerful and straight to the point, making them perfect for those moments when you need to think on your feet.

As you read the following list, think about writing down the remarks that strike a chord with you, so you have them ready whenever you need them:

  1. Why do you ask that?
  2. What do you wish to happen now?
  3. I’ll have to get back to you on that.
  4. I need some time to think about it.
  5. That’s not going to work for me, because…

Memorise a few phrases like these, because they will help you speak up assertively. Bear in mind, assertive communication isn’t about being combative or hostile. It’s about finding your voice, openly expressing yourself and standing up for your beliefs. With practice, you’ll become more proficient in the language of assertiveness, allowing you to navigate challenging discussions with composure and assurance.

 

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Check out the original article here for a longer list of one-liners and tips on how to use them effectively. Practice them with a friend or colleague, so you feel more confident using them in real-life situations. Or start using them in your daily interactions to build your assertiveness muscle.

Remember, difficult conversations are a part of life and work, but with the right tools and techniques like these one-liners, you can handle them with ease. So next time you find yourself in a tricky situation, remember to take a deep breath and use one of these powerful phrases to help guide the conversation.

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

 

Struggling manager vs high impact leader. Which are you?

No-one moves into management with the aim of becoming unheard and invisible. Yet, over half of new managers struggle to make a difference after being promoted. In my work as a leadership coach and trainer, I’ve noticed three key behaviours that distinguish struggling managers from high-impact leaders. These span the areas of communication, work paradigms and self-leadership. For example, in this week’s video I explain how a communication habit called ‘approval-seeking’ disadvantages female professionals.

There are three habits to watch out for if you want to have influence, impact and credibility in your management role. Let’s look at each of these now.

HABIT 1: approval-seeking

Now you might think that seeking approval before taking action is a positive trait, but it actually sabotages managerial success. After all, senior people are expected to be self-directed. A manager who asks for permission before making simple decisions is perceived to be struggling. A high-impact leader, on the other hand, takes initiative and acts confidently. This doesn’t mean being authoritarian or making reckless decisions, but it does mean taking action without constantly seeking validation from others.

HABIT 2: overworking

A second difference between struggling managers and high-impact leaders is their work paradigms. Struggling managers tend to focus on completing tasks, while high-impact leaders focus on achieving goals. This is why many new managers work excessive hours and still fail to meet their objectives. They are stuck in a mindset of ‘doing things’ rather than ‘delivering results’. Great leaders, in comparison, focus on the bigger picture and prioritise their time and energy accordingly. This allows them to achieve more success with much less stress.

 

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HABIT 3: doubting yourself

Finally, self-doubt is a common trait among struggling managers. If you often question your own ability or second-guess your decisions, you may be falling into this trap. High-impact leaders, on the other hand, have deep confidence and genuinely believe in their own capabilities. They are willing to learn from mistakes rather than trying to be perfect at all times. Plus, they surround themselves with a supportive network of mentors and peers who can help them grow as leaders.

So, if you want to excel in your managerial role, focus on improving these three key behaviours – communication, work paradigms and self-leadership. A great place to start is with a 360-degree profile tool, like the Leadership Circle Profile. This will help you identify your strengths and development areas in each of these categories. Then, you can work with a coach or mentor to create an action plan for stepping into your zone of leadership excellence.

If you’d like more information about the Leadership Circle Profile, check out my coaching page. It’s a tool I use in my management coaching and executive coaching programs. Or you can organise a workshop for leadership team.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

 

 

 

Is your explanatory style stressing you out?

When you’re going through tough times, it’s normal to try and understand what is happening. The way you explain events to yourself is called your ‘explanatory style’. And that style just might be increasing your stress. An interesting article about this can be found on the Very Well Mind site. Here’s a quick rundown on what that article says.

Three dimensions of internal explanation

You draw on three factors when explaining events to yourself: stability; globality and internality. You assess stability by deciding if an event or situation is a one-time thing is likely to happen again. Your assessment of globality is based on your assumptions about when an event impacts your entire life or just a portion of it. Finally, your beliefs about whether things happen to you or are caused by you create your ‘internality’.

 

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Why does this cause STRESS?

So how do those three factors impact your stress? Put simply, the explanations you create can impact on your emotions.  If you assume a bad situation will go on forever, for example, your assessment of stability will trigger a stress reaction. As the Very Well Mind article points out “optimists tend to have more positive explanatory styles—ones that minimise stressful situations as unstable, local, and external and take credit for positive experiences as being more stable, global, and internal”.

What to do about it

The good news is that you can change your explanatory style fairly easily. First, you need to identify and correct cognitive errors. This are flawed thinking patterns and often are linked to deeply held beliefs about stability, globabilty and internality. You can learn to question these errors and create a more positive (less stress-inducing!) style of thinking.

So the next time problems emerge in your life, remember this: your thinking impacts your well-being. Developing a positive explanation style helps you handle stress and become more resilient. Recognise cognitive distortions, set goals and express gratitude to explain things positively.

You can read more in the original article here.

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Unveiling momentum lab: your 7-day path to unstoppability

For high achievers, there’s nothing worse than realising your momentum has stalled for no apparent reason.  Your filing cabinet is full of unfinished projects. Your to-do list is growing longer by the minute. And your once-steep career trajectory has dived, taking your motivation with it. This is not the end, though. You can rebuild momentum get back on track. In fact, that’s what my Momentum Lab (which is starting soon) is all about. \

Momentum Lab is for stalled go-getters. It moves you from stuck to unstoppable in just 7 days.  How? By shifting your attention away from WHY your progress has stalled. Then showing you HOW to get going again – without feeling overwhelmed or pressurised. Momentum helps you take three important steps.

STEP 1: Get truly motivated instead of hyped up

What’s the difference? When you’re motivated, you get energy from within. When you’re hyped-up, you rely on external forces to push you forward. That’s why true motivation lasts over the long-term, but hype dies off quickly. In Momentum Lab, we use a unique Success Maker Plan to spark deep, enduring motivation. This doesn’t just plan your day; it drives your success in achieving your goals.

STEP 2: Get organised, without getting overloaded

No. This does not involve writing countless to-do lists, hiring a professional organiser or downloading yet another productivity app. Instead, in means using the Succeed in 60 Formula to tame chaos and take back control. Once you do this, of course, it will be easier to focus and thrive. And if organising isn’t your thing, don’t worry. You’ll be given lots of tools and cheat sheets to make streamlining your life easy.

 

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STEP 3: Get results focused, instead of being busy

Yep. No doubt you’ve heard there’s a big difference between efficiency and effectiveness. Momentum takes this idea a step further. You learn to program your mind and your behaviour, so you can get results without working 24/7. What would you do if were 10 times more effective? You’ll find out in Momentum Lab!

I love running Momentum Lab, because the transformations in just one week are astonishing. People who hadn’t made progress for years, suddenly leap forward. Those who have been struggling with motivation find their drive again. And everyone discovers how to manage their energy better – so we can all can relax and enjoy life as well as achieving true success.

If this sounds something you can benefit from (and honestly, who wouldn’t want to be unstoppable and enjoy life at the same time?) join me in Momentum Lab. You’ll get access to all the tools, techniques and support you need to regain your momentum and achieve true success. Enrol here.

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

Working from home? Watch out for these 3 stressors

If you’re finding work-from-home arrangements surprisingly tiring or unproductive, you’re not alone. It turns out that 70% of us are discovering the dream of working from home turning into a nightmare. According to a study published in 2021, working from home isn’t always the stress-free paradise we imagine. In fact, it can often increase your stress levels. Now, you might be thinking, “How is that possible?” Well, let’s dive into the research and see what it says.

The study found that in addition to social isolation and increased workloads, blurred boundaries pose  a significant challenge for remote workers. You see, when you work from home, it can be difficult to separate your work life from your personal life. And that can lead to a constant feeling of being “on the clock”, even during off-hours.

 

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So, how can you use this information to your advantage? Well, the key is to set boundaries, according to the researchers who did the study. They explain there are three types of boundaries:  physical, temporal and psychological. You need to maintain all three to keep stress at bay. Here’s how.

Physical boundaries define the space between your work and living zones. To maintain them set up a dedicated workspace, use different devices for work and leisure activities, or establish clear start and end times for your workday.

Temporal boundaries mark distinctions in time. You can preserve them by setting specific times for work and sticking to them. This means not checking emails outside of designated working hours or staying bound to your computer all night.

Psychological boundaries enable you to separate work and personal life.  To maintain them, you need to  say ‘no’ to personal interruptions during work time. And to work intruding on your personal time. Plus, it helps to establish rituals to signal the end of work and the beginning of personal time, such as changing clothes or taking a walk.

Overall, working from home can be both a blessing and a curse. By understanding the potential stressors, you can make sure they don’t impact your mental well-being. Use boundary-setting techniques to create a clear division between work and personal life, stay connected with colleagues and take breaks when needed.

You can read the original article here.

This article summary was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.