Willpower isn’t the secret to mental stamina.

Willpower isn’t the answer to building mental stamina. Successful leaders use “way-power.” You’ve got the will to achieve your dreams but also need to consider how to achieve them. Researching and analysing the steps needed to reach goals builds waypower. It’s your mental capacity to see a path for reaching your goals. Without waypower, you’re more likely to become overburdened with self-doubt and a lack of confidence. Learn more in this week’s article.

 

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Be bold and lead in difficult times

People expect leaders to be bold during tough times.. This is where confidence coaching comes in. Personalised coaching sessions boost your confidence. You’ll focus on your specific needs. You can overcome the anxieties holding you back. No one is born with confidence, which means that anyone can become bolder.

Coaching provides the support and training needed to develop a more positive mindset. Learn to deal with your inner critic and take charge in difficult situations. Book a free discovery call with Eleanor Shakiba to learn more.

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It’s not you, it’s them

Are you mid-career and feeling like you’re not where you want to be? You’re not alone. This article from Harvard Business Review outlines three biases that can hold women back in their careers.

The article discusses three specific types of discrimination: the likability penalty, the confidence gap, and the motherhood penalty. Each affects women differently by either punishing them for their behaviour or penalising them for taking time off. For example, the confidence gap means that due to a lack of confidence, women may not take risks or ask for promotions or raises as much as their male counterparts do. The motherhood penalty points out how after having children, women are often seen as being less capable than men when it comes to job promotions and opportunities. And finally, the likability penalty shows how being too agreeable can lead to mid-career women not getting taken seriously by their colleagues at work.

These types of bias can have a huge impact on mid-career women’s financial success and career progression. It is important for managers, business owners and supervisors to be aware of these biases so they can better understand how they may be affecting their female employees and make changes accordingly. They should create policies which support working mothers and make sure that people’s qualifications rather than gender or behaviour are taken into account when considering promotions or assigning tasks.

 

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How can managers and business owners address these biases? Managers can make an effort to promote gender diversity in their organizations. They can also make sure that there are equal opportunities for advancement for both men and women. Business owners can create policies that support working parents, such as flexible work arrangements and paid parental leave. And everyone can make an effort to give equal weight to the opinions of men and women in meetings and decision-making processes.

These strategies can help to level the playing field for mid-career women, but there is still much work to be done. We need to create workplaces that are free from bias and discrimination. We need to empower mid-career women so they can reach their full potential. Let’s work together to create a brighter future for all women in the workforce.

Find out more in the original article here: https://hbr.org/2022/09/3-workplace-biases-that-derail-mid-career-women?utm_campaign=59d2c81294a32640540086c5&utm_content=632868619fadda00017d851c&utm_medium=smarpshare&utm_source=linkedin

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

Leader loneliness causes managers to burn out

Did you know loneliness is one of the most common triggers for leader fatigue and burnout? It happens because leaders are responsible for managing crises, making tough – often unpopular – decisions and taking on the burden of ‘toxic emotion buffering’ in teams. Plus, they must maintain confidentiality and preserve morale. All of which means leaders often face tough situations alone. This is not something we talk about widely. But it is time bosses started to speak up assertively about leader loneliness.

Sign 1: the go-it-alone attitude

Believing you can handle everything by yourself puts too much weight on your shoulders. It leads to a double whammy of overwork and low resilience. Both of which are key contributors to burnout. Remember that when you’re surrounded by people you trust,  everything becomes easier. Even leadership!

Sign 2: excessive self-criticism

Also known as beating yourself up.  If you don’t have trusted advisors around to provide authentic feedback, your inner critic can easily go feral. Now you’re an experienced leader. You know that negative self-talk lowers your confidence. It also decreases motivation and triggers feelings of hopelessness. And hopelessness and burnout go together like chocolate sprinkles and ice cream. And let’s face it, you eat a lot more of that combination when you’re burned out.  That’s why comfort eating is sign 2B.

 

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Sign 3: reluctance to seek help

This happens when leaders believe asking for help is a sign of weakness. But not having support  reinforces your isolation. Leaders with high levels of mental stamina have support systems. They surround themselves with trusted advisors and peers. The tougher things get, the more they reach out.

If you’re struggling with any of these signs, it’s important to reach out for support. You don’t have to face these challenges alone!  Find a coach or mentor you trust and stop going it alone. Having a trusted advisor to talk to can make all the difference. You are someone who can make a difference.  Don’t let leader loneliness stop you!

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

 

 

 

 

 

A short history of positive psychology

How does the science of happiness relate to business owners and supervisors? According to Harvard Magazine, it’s all about creating a positive work environment.

The article cites a study that found happy employees are more productive and take fewer sick days. It also points out that happy employees are more likely to be innovative and come up with new ideas.

So how can you create a positive work environment? The article offers several tips, including:

Make sure employees feel appreciated.  Regularly give feedback on their performance and provide recognition for their work.

Encourage collaboration. Allow employees to work together and share ideas. This helps them feel valued, which leads to a more positive workplace.

Provide clear goals and expectations. Helping employees set realistic goals helps them stay motivated and focused on their work.

Foster trust between management and staff members. Show that you care about  your employees by listening to their ideas and being open to new ways of doing things.

Create a comfortable environment. Make sure employees have the tools, resources and support they need to do their jobs well

 

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Finally, don’t forget about having fun in the workplace! Incorporate activities into the workplace that will help everyone

Encourage collaboration among co-workers.  Working in teams can help foster creativity and build relationships that will make employees feel more connected to the company.

Create a sense of purpose in your work environment.  Communicate the company’s mission and values to employees so that they feel invested in the success of the organisation.

Foster open communication between supervisors and workers. Let them know their opinions matter. By creating a positive work environment, you will be able to reap the rewards of happier and more productive employees.

Provide opportunities for training and development.   Investing in your employees will help them to stay on top of industry trends and become better at what they do. It will also show that you value their contributions and are invested in their success.

If you’re a business owner or supervisor, these are all things you should keep in mind. Creating a happy, productive work environment can be challenging, but it’s definitely worth the effort.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.harvardmagazine.com/2007/01/the-science-of-happiness.html

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

 

Why self-criticism will NOT help you succeed

It’s hard to be successful when you’re constantly putting yourself down. Yet many high achievers do precisely that, believing that self-criticism is a tool for building peak performance. Nothing could be further from the truth. Regular self-criticism offers a quick path to feelings of failure, worthlessness and helplessness. No one is perfect. If you want to boost your confidence, replace negative self-evaluations with positive reflections. Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) provides a way to overcome toxic self-criticism and build authentic confidence. Learn more in an inspiring video from NLP trainer, Eleanor Shakiba.

 

 

 

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Are ‘attachment issues’ impacting your leadership style?

Have you ever wondered how attachment styles can affect performance in the workplace? This question is explored in depth in the article “Attachment in the Workplace”  on The Attachment Project. In this article, it asserts that our attachment style can significantly influence how we function and perform at work.

The article begins by introducing attachment theory, which states that people develop certain relationship patterns depending on their upbringing and experiences. It then goes on to explain how early childhood experiences shape our beliefs and behaviours when it comes to forming relationships, both personal and professional.  It further states that these attachment styles can affect our behaviour in the workplace, leading to different levels of performance and engagement

The article then outlines four possible attachment styles which could impact on how well a person performs at work: secure, avoidant, anxious-ambivalent, and disorganised. Each style is associated with its own unique set of beliefs and behaviours which can have a positive or negative effect on one’s performance.

The article finishes with some practical advice for those looking to improve their attachment style in the workplace: develop self-awareness, practice healthy relationships, learn effective communication and problem-solving skills, and seek professional help if necessary. It outlines ways in which understanding our own attachment style can help us better navigate our working environment.

 

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Overall , this article provides an insightful look into how our attachment style can shape our performance in the workplace. It is a must-read for anyone looking to make meaningful changes in their professional life

By understanding your own attachment style, you can develop strategies to help you effectively manage relationships and achieve success at work. This article is an invaluable resource

Examining one’s own attachment style can provide insight into why certain conflicts arise between colleagues, as well as what strategies might be employed to ensure a more effective team dynamic. It has implications for those in leadership positions too; managers, business owners and supervisors are encouraged to understand their own attachment styles so they can better relate to their subordinates and lead them with greater effectiveness.

This is an excellent resource for anyone looking to gain a deeper understanding of how their own attachment style affects their interactions – both positive and negative – in the workplace. Ultimately, understanding one’s self is key for any leader who wishes to foster an environment of collaboration and success amongst their team members.

Find out more in the original article here: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/attachment-in-the-workplace/

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Eleanor is a leadership trainer, success coach and people skills expert. She helps managers and business owners build thriving teams and organisations, using tools from Positive Psychology. She's trained more than 60,000 people during her career as a corporate trainer and professional development consultant. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference. 

 

3 hidden triggers of Leader fatigue

We’ve all heard of ‘burnout’ and ‘quiet quitting’ in teams.  But we rarely acknowledge that the hidden pressures of leading can cause another problem : Leader Fatigue Complex. Right now, business leaders are experiencing rising levels of weariness. Put simply, bosses and managers showing signs of fatigue than ever before. Learned helplessness is setting in and raising simple tiredness to the level of what I call Leader Fatigue Complex.

Leader Fatigue Complex is worrying. It sparks a range of problems for leaders themselves, as well as their organisations. These include:

  • Reduced decision-making capabilities, due to cognitive and behavioural exhaustion
  • Negative team impacts, including heightened levels of stress, anxiety and conflict amongst employees
  • Rising cynicism and negativity within leadership teams – which has a ripple effect downwards
  • Decreased manager performance, which in some cases is leading to significant financial losses

Yes, HR practitioners have been struggling to address these problems. Unfortunately training and teambuilding sessions haven’t shifted the trend significantly. This is because such quick fixes don’t address the three real key causes of managers’ fatigue. These are subtle and intangible, but they can have a huge impact on the health and productivity of managers, business owners and leaders.

Toxic emotion buffering

This is one of the most unseen aspects of managerial work. It involves mitigating the toxic emotions that arise in teams on a regular basis. Examples of toxic emotion buffering work include managing heated arguments between colleagues, coaching stressed or unhappy employees and responding to ‘testing behaviours’ in disgruntled teams. Doing this on a regular basis takes an emotional toll and leads to leader fatigue over the long term.

Complexity overload

This means having too much information to handle at once.  If you feel overwhelmed by the number of decisions that need to be made each day, you know all about it! Setting boundaries can help here, but many frontline managers or business owners find this difficult. As a result, they become overstretched, leading to more stress and leader fatigue in the long run.

 

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Leader loneliness

This happens because managers and business owners must maintain confidentiality whilst managing the demands of their roles. Juggling the people side of business with bottom line pressures can be very isolating, leading to high levels of stress and leader fatigue. Add to this reduced professional development budgets, which means less access to professional coaching, and you have the ideal conditions for a spike in leader loneliness.

The good news is there are solutions for the leader fatigue problem. If you want to reduce the toll of emotional buffering, complexity overload and leader loneliness, stay in touch. I’ll be discussing practical solutions to these issues in upcoming videos and articles.

This article was created by Eleanor Shakiba

Eleanor is a leadership trainer and success coach. Her mission is inspiring talented people to become leaders who make a difference.  Since discovering her passion for training and development, Eleanor has trained more than 60,000 people. She delivers face-to-face workshops for corporates, online masterclasses for leaders and Positive Psychology retreats for trainers, HR practitioners and leaders. 

 

 

 

Small rewards (like chocolate) can anchor confidence

Need confidence? Give yourself a chocolate. You’ve probably heard about the benefits of rewards for motivation. A new breakthrough in neuroscience suggests that rewards can also boost confidence. Giving yourself a small reward can train the brain to feel more confident.

A group of researchers published their findings from a recent study on using rewards to manipulate the brain. The researchers wanted to determine if self-confidence can be amplified directly in the brain. They explain that self-confidence is an essential quality to succeed in the modern world. Self-confidence may also help decrease the risk of mental illnesses, such as Alzheimer’s disease and depression.

To complete the study, the researchers developed a unique method for reading and amplifying the brain. The method is called ‘decoded neurofeedback’. It involves mapping specific patterns in the brain linked to an individual’s feelings of confidence. The researchers used this technique to scan the brain and determine whether a participant is experiencing a high or low confidence state.

Participants were unaware of the nature of the study. They were instructed to perform a simple perceptual task. When a high confidence state was detected, the researchers gave the participant a small monetary reward. At the end of the training session, participants were asked to rate their confidence in completing the task. Participants were consistently more confident after receiving the rewards.

Researchers could also reverse the effects. By withholding rewards, they could lower the confidence of the participant. They essentially proved that it’s possible to train the brain to be more confident or less confident with a simple reward system. Keep in mind that the study was limited in scope. The study involved just 17 volunteers. However, it’s in line with the results of similar studies.

Research shows that a reward system helps drive motivation. It can also boost your confidence. If you’re an ambitious professional, your confidence influences career ambitions. Low self-confidence tends to lead to a feeling of inadequacy. You may start to feel unworthy of your job title. We call this imposter syndrome.

Giving yourself small rewards may offer a boost of confidence, but it may not be enough to beat imposter syndrome. To build authentic confidence, you need to get to the root of your insecurities. One solution is to reframe negative thought patterns using the latest neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) techniques.

So, should you start rewarding yourself to increase your confidence? It’s a good start, but you should also explore additional confidence-building methods. For example, a reward may not train the brain to overcome major fears and insecurities. To explore other techniques for a more confident mind, learn about my one-to-one coaching and online courses at https://thinklearnsucceed.com.au.

 

 

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Three signs that low confidence is really learned helplessness

Confidence is a key ingredient for success, but unfortunately, many people secretly struggle with self-doubt and feelings of low confidence. This can be due to a number of factors, including learned helplessness. This mindset stems from feeling like you’re constantly facing negative outcomes. You may start to doubt yourself and your abilities, leading to a sense of helplessness. Thankfully, no one is truly helpless. Understanding how learned helplessness feeds low confidence will help you tackle self-doubt head on. Don’t give up! Confidence problems can be solved. In this two-minute video from Eleanor Shakiba, you will learn how Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) can help beat imposter syndrome and build authentic confidence.

 

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