Fun fact 6: Mindfulness and meditation are not the same thing

Many people think mindfulness is the same as meditation. However, this isn’t altogether accurate. Positive psychology trainers define mindfulness as a state of focused attention. This state can occur any time you focus on the here-and-now.  Meditation, on the other hand, is a formal practice in which various techniques are used to consciously direct attention. Mindful attention exercises are often used during meditation – which is why the two terms are used interchangeably by many people.

 

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In the human resources field, there’s increasing interest in using mindfulness techniques to boost employee wellbeing. This is because the benefits of mindfulness are well researched. They include reduced stress, improved creativity, greater problem-solving ability and improved immune function. Accessing these benefits does not mean you have to take up a formal practice – such as mindfulness meditation. It can be as simple as doing one thing at a time and allowing yourself to fully focus on each task. Why not get some advice from a positive psychology trainer about practical ways to boost your mindfulness? It will benefit you and the people you work with.

 

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Eleanor is a master trainer and coach. She trains savvy professionals in a range of sectors – including higher education, health, finance and local government – in the use of positive psychology tools and techniques. Eleanor is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She runs specialist training for facilitators and trainers, as well as delivering customised training for corporate teams.

Over-sharing: the downside of experiential learning in groups

Anyone who has been in the training room with a participant who ‘over shares’ knows that self-disclosure can go too far. There’s a big difference between reflecting (a vital part of learning) and ruminating. Rumination involves obsessively focusing on negative events, without resolving or learning from them.  

Rumination blocks learning. When a group participant recounts an experience in graphic detail, they become stuck in the ‘what’ of their experience. This means they don’t progress to the most important part of experiential learning: examining the question ‘what did I learn from this?’ 

Signs that someone is stuck in storytelling, rather than progressing to learning include: 

  • Going into excessive detail about an experience, event or interaction 
  • Repeating the same tale multiple times during a session 
  • Failure to notice the reactions of other group members – who will quickly start to shuffle or look bored when too much information is shared  
  • Strong displays of emotions such as anger, frustration or learned helplessness 
  • Sharing of traumatic experiences without concern for the psychological wellbeing of other group members 

Masterful facilitators and positive psychology trainers know how to disrupt the negative dynamic rumination can create. Indeed, the ability to shift group members from rumination to learning is a hallmark of a great practitioner. Here are some of the tactics you’ll see master trainers using to prompt a progression from tale-telling to learning.  

Great trainers set learning frames at the start of their sessions 

They explain the process of adult learning and how to get the most from group discussions. This involves sharing a process for reflective conversation – a good example is the ‘what…so what…now what?’ frame. In workshops that are likely to spark high emotions – for example conflict management sessions – great trainers explain “this is training, not group therapy”. This enables them to gracefully move conversations into learning mode when participants over-share.  

They balance group safety with individual safety 

Responsible trainers are aware of the dynamics of vicarious trauma. Listening to one person’s traumatic experience can cause immense distress to other group members. Experienced facilitators frame their activities carefully to prevent this. For example, “In this activity you will share examples of times you overcame a problem. Please avoid sharing stories of extreme distress or trauma, as your fellow group members are not qualified to handle these. Focus on examples of problems caused by inconvenience or disruption but have no ongoing impact on your life now.” 

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 Wise trainers refer to appropriate sources of help 

 Sometimes participants bring their emotional or psychological problems into the training room. Experienced trainers know the signs of emotional distress and respond empathically. Where necessary, they refer participants to appropriate assistance. This can include HR practitioners, conflict coaches, mediators, counsellors or the organisation’s employee assistance program.  

Experiential training methods are powerful triggers for learning. When led by skilled practitioners, they bring out the best in people. The next time you’re looking for someone to run a training or teambuilding session, ask them how they handle over-sharing in the group. Their answer will tell you how successfully they will help individuals turn knowledge into wisdom.  

About the author of this article: 

Eleanor Shakiba is a trusted coach and trainer to thousands of professionals in high intellect fields. Her expertise is in using positive psychology to build high performing leaders and teams. Eleanor works with trainers and HR specialists to build exceptional organisations and teams. She is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She also runs a range of retreats and workshops for trainers and facilitators.

Mindfulness versus meditation: what’s the difference?

Many people think mindfulness and meditation are the same thing. However, this isn’t really the case. Positive psychology trainers define mindfulness as a state of focused attention. It is a state which can occur any time you focus on the present moment.  Meditation, in contrast, is a formal practice in which various techniques are used to consciously direct attention. The aim of meditation is to induce a mindful state Additionally, mindful attention exercises are often used during meditation. However, the two concepts are slightly different.  

Positive psychology trainers teach mindfulness techniques to help professionals improve their focus, reduce stress and boost creativity. This usually doesn’t involve mediating – it means using simple techniques that focus attention. Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by bringing your attention to the present moment without any judgment. You remain aware of the surrounding environment, along with your body and thoughts, without any judgment.  

Positive psychologist, Ellen Langer, describes mindfulness as the process of actively discovering new things, while challenging your natural tendencies. She draws a  distinction between mindlessness and mindfulness. Mindlessness is a state of mind that relies on preconceived notions to categorise experiences. You become mindless when you perform an act out of habit or make assumptions. It includes automatic behaviour or acting from a single perspective.  

Mindfulness, on the other hand,  involves a state of openness. While meditation also often involves an open state of mind, it is not the same as the state outlined by Langer. Meditation refers to the intentional practice of focusing your attention. Most forms of meditation involve a postural position, mantras or repeated phrases and a focus on your breathing. Positive psychology trainers don’t use these techniques. Instead they use simple attention focusing techniques such as mindful photography to help you become more mindful.  

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Some forms of meditation deliberately create a state of mindfulness, requiring you to remain aware and open to your surroundings. That’s why ‘mindfulness meditation’ is a commonly used term. However, the approach to mindfulness advocated by positive psychology trainers is more about being actively mindful in your daily life.   

According to Ellen Langer, the characteristics of mindfulness include: 

  • Creation of new categories 
  • Openness to new information 
  • Awareness of more than one perspective 

Instead of relying on old categories and labels, you create new ones. This comes naturally to children As people start to depend on past experiences to shape their current ones, it becomes more difficult with age. Mindfulness also involves an openness to new information and points of view. New information helps you develop new categories and labels while different points of view help keep you open to other ideas or beliefs. 

If you want to become more mindful in your personal and professional life, try these tips. All of them are recommended by positive psychology trainers who work with corporate clients.  

  • Actively try to notice new things in every situation and the familiar becomes more interesting 
  • Avoid being mindless and relying on categories and labels that you created in the past 
  • Reframe negative attributes in others as interesting quirks or potential areas for improvement 
  • Always look for ways to grow and evolve instead of getting complacent with your current routine 
  • Try to find ways to integrate work and life rather than trying to achieve an unrealistic work-life balance. 

Numerous studies have linked mindfulness to reduced stress, increased memory and greater cognitive flexibility. According to a study conducted at Liverpool John Moores University, mindfulness increased participant’s ability to remain focused and suppress any distracting information. So if you want to experience these benefits, start using mindful awareness techniques today.  

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Eleanor is a master trainer and coach. She trains savvy professionals in a range of sectors – including higher education, health, finance and local government – in the use of positive psychology tools and techniquesEleanor is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She runs specialist training for facilitators and trainers, as well as delivering customised training for corporate teams. 

Optimism can be learned. Here’s how.

Positive psychologists define optimism as a feeling of hopefulness and confidence about the future. It’s the belief that things will turn out okay. And here’s some great news. The thinking patterns of optimists can be learned. Even if you lean towards pessimism, you can change.

Here are four ways you can embed optimistic thinking habits in your life.

  1. Keep a gratitude journal. This trains your brain to scan for the positives and feel grateful for even the smallest things.
  2. Edit your self-talk. Delete negative language and replace it with constructive, solution focused inner dialogue.
  3. Be curious. Refocus and look through a positive lens. Notice what’s good right now or has the potential to become better in the future.
  4. Leave the past in the past. Stop dwelling on distressing or upsetting events from the past. Instead, picture the future you want to create and work out how to build it!

 

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Apply these techniques and you will experience lower stress levels, better health outcomes and higher motivation. Take the pessimistic filter off and replace it with an optimistic one today!

 

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Eleanor Shakiba is a positive psychology trainer. She has been training and coaching ‘positive deviants’ since 1994. She delivers customised workshops for corporate teams, as well as practitioner level programs for HR and L&D specialists. Eleanor is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. (link to PP toolkit page). She also runs a range of retreats and workshops for trainers and facilitators.

Want to train your team on resilience and learned optimism techniques? Call Eleanor Shakiba. 0433 126 841

Learned Optimism. Martin Seligman

When people ask me how to overcome anxious or negative thoughts, I suggest they read Learned Optimism. It’s a pragmatic, helpful introduction to the skill of cognitive reframing. It’s easy to read, yet is based on a solid research foundation.  

In Learned Optimismthe ”father of positive psychology” explores pessimism, learned helplessness, explanatory style and optimism. He then discusses how these thinking patterns impact our lives. Drawing on more than 25 years of research, Seligman describes how optimism can become a learned attitude. He describes a range of techniques people can use to think optimistically. Because these are drawn from robust research studies, these are techniques OD and HR practitioners can teach with confidence.  

Reading Seligman’s book will help you understand, apply and teach the thinking habits of optimistic people. Leaders, trainers, counsellors, coaches and Human Resources professionals are amongst the people I most commonly recommend it to.  

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Eleanor Shakiba is a training consultant and facilitator. Since 1994, she has delivered thousands of workshops on resilience, positive psychology and constructive communication. She works with people in high intellect professions – such as academia, education, project management, research and development and engineering. Her skills in interactive training make Eleanor a highly sought-after facilitator. In addition to her expertise in Positive Psychology, Eleanor also holds qualifications in Social Anthropology, Counselling, Coaching, Adult Education and Neuro Linguistic Programming. 

Optimists are less likely to have heart attacks

You probably know someone who lives by the mantra: ‘be positive’. And it seems that person has a point. Optimism is good for you on a number of levels. For example, optimism can positively impact your health. Here’s some proof supporting this claim. There was a huge study conducted by Jama Network Open over the course of 14 years. More than 230,000 people were studied across 4 different continents to find a link between life outlook and heart health. After the giant study ended, the researchers published a stunning result: optimists are 35% less likely to have a heart attack than pessimists.

 

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This finding has huge implications for the future of your health. And it is not only useful in the health field. After working with positive psychology trainers or coaches, many professionals have learned how to apply the principles of learned optimism at work. Why not do the same yourself?

 

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Eleanor Shakiba is a trusted coach and trainer to thousands of professionals in high intellect fields. Her expertise is in using positive psychology to build high performing leaders and teams. Eleanor works with trainers and HR specialists to build exceptional organisations and teams. She is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She also runs a range of retreats and workshops for trainers and facilitators.

Aussie Optimism program gives us all cause to be optimistic.

Here’s a great positive psychology case study on learned optimism. Aussie Optimism The program is an after-school program that helps children of all different ages.  It helps young people build their skills and use the principles of learned optimism to make a great start in life. The Aussie Optimism team uses positive psychology models to encourage young people to build their strengths. It also encourages them to look towards the future, rather than simply solving problems in the here-and-now.

The program has has helped hundreds of young people reduce mental health stress, recover from depression, reduce suicidal thoughts and behaviours and more. Young people who go through this program are less likely to drink or smoke when they grow older because they feel supported and loved. Positive psychology models fill the gaps in people’s minds and hearts where there might otherwise be nothing but negativity.

 

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You might find that many mental health organisations focus on finding solutions to the negative mental health problems a child might have. Groups like Aussie Optimism seek to reverse that trend by highlighting the positives and helping young people build on their strengths. They’ve found that the mental health problems start to decline on their own. This is a powerful tool that you can use in your own life or organisation to promote support, independence and positivity.

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Eleanor Shakiba is a master trainer and coach. Her passion is teaching ‘positive deviants’ to think positively and communicate constructively. A specialist the field of Positive Psychology, Eleanor is author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She also provides coaching and training for trainers and facilitators.

Love Martin Seligman’s work? Here’s a great paper on his early research into learned helplessness.

In 1967, Martin Seligman and a group of researchers completed a study on learned helplessness. The theory is that people tend to give up when they believe that they have no control over what happens.

The study that helped provide evidence for the theory involved dogs. Seligman exposed a group of dogs to inescapable electric shocks while kept inside a box with an escapable barrier.

On the first set of trials, the dogs ran frantically around the box before finally escaping across the barrier. With each successive trial, the dogs learned to escape quicker.

Another set of dogs were placed in inescapable Pavlovian hammocks and given inescapable shocks. The dogs were then placed in boxes with escapable barriers. The second set of dogs failed to cross the barrier to escape the shock.

After repeated trials, the second group of dogs eventually gave up on any attempt to escape. They laid down and passively accepted the shocks. The study helps verify the idea that a lack of control leads to a sense of helplessness. While the study involved animal behaviour, the same concepts can be applied to human behaviour. When people experience a lack of control, they start to give up and may overlook opportunities for change.

 

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Learned optimism is the opposite of learned helplessness. Seligman defined learned optimism in 1990 as the idea that people can learn how to become more optimistic when facing adverse situations. Seligman created a system for learned optimism that requires you to challenge negative thoughts after facing adversity. When you successfully challenge your negativity, you feel energised, which helps to condition your mind for optimism.

This is just one of the examples of positive psychology that can have a profound impact on productivity and happiness in the workplace. To learn more, schedule a training session with Think Learn Succeed.

 

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Eleanor Shakiba is a master trainer. She specialises in positive psychology techniques such as positive deviance, learned optimism and positive leadership. Eleanor can help you and your people build a thriving business, using evidence-based tools. Eleanor is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She also runs a range of retreats and workshops for trainers and facilitators.

4 workplace problems resilience training won’t fix

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity. Resilient people respond resourcefully to organisational change, challenging work assignments and short-term conflicts. However, even the most resilient of us also need reasonable workloads, supportive relationships and positive environments. Sending your team to resilience training won’t resolve systemic issues which are creating unreasonable, ongoing levels of pressure on your people. These include issues such as: 

  • Unreasonable workloads (time management training won’t fix this problem, either) 
  • Inappropriate staffing levels 
  • Bullying cultures, chronic team conflict or toxic team dynamics 
  • Chaotic work environments characterised by lack of goals, priorities, systems and procedures 

Each of these issues creates stress because it places your employees in an ‘unfixable’ situation.  

This reduces resilience, because it depletes self-efficacy (the individual’s ability to take charge of their own destiny). Indeed, people who remain in unresolvable situations are likely to develop the thinking patterns associated with learned helplessness. At best they give up and disengage. At worst, their mental health is negatively impacted. Training in learned optimism or resilient thinking techniques might help people cope in the short term. However, the causes of workplace stress also need to be addressed.  

The bottom line is this. When the pressure is on, resilience training should only be one part of your employee wellbeing strategy. Other options to consider include:  

  1. Clearly articulating the purpose and mission of your business. There is clear evidence from positive psychology research that meaning and purpose are critical to resilience. They give your people a reason to engage – and with engagement comes improved psychological wellbeing 
  2. Reviewing and redesigning work processes, systems and procedures 
  3. Updating position descriptions and clearly defining workloads for each team member 
  4. Programming regular coaching conversations between supervisors and individual team members 
  5. Addressing team dynamics problems through interventions such as team-building, mediation or performance management 
  6. Referring individuals to appropriate external support services, such as coaching or counselling 
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Once these measures have been implemented, training your people in learned optimism and resilience techniques will be helpful. good resilience workshowill cover topics such as:  

  • Emotion regulation 
  • Learned optimism 
  • Disputing negative thoughts 
  • Solution focused thinking 
  • Hope theory 
  • Growth mindset and reflective thinking 

Find out more about resilience in my video What is Resilience? 

About the author of this article: 

Eleanor is a master trainer and coach. She trains savvy professionals in a range of sectors – including higher education, health, finance and local government – in the use of positive psychology tools and techniquesEleanor is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She runs specialist training for facilitators and trainers, as well as delivering customised training for corporate teams. 

Fun fact 5: Optimists bounce back from failure faster than pessimists

How optimistic are you? Your answer to this question matters if you want to be well equipped to deal with failure. Optimists who take failure in their stride – believing the future will be positive despite setbacks – have higher levels of resilience. Indeed, optimism plays a key role in how quickly you can bounce back from adversity. A series of positive psychology studies prove this.

One study in 2001 showed that optimism among football players led to better performance and more wins. A 2006 also found a direct link between optimism and success rates for sports team. Players who looked for learning opportunities in their failures were more motivated to improve themselves. This positivity became contagious, rippling through the entire team. Thus, players focused on building their skills and set themselves up for the next win.

 

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These results are not only relevant in the sports field. There is ample evidence that optimistic thinking patterns support development in any field. This is why learned optimism techniques are so popular with positive psychology trainers and savvy HR practitioners.

 

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Eleanor is a master trainer and facilitator.  She specialises in positive psychology, helping leaders and HR practitioners build flourishing organisations. She is known as a creative, dynamic facilitator with a flair for helping ‘positive deviants’ excel at work. Eleanor is the author of the Positive Psychology Toolkit for HR and L&D practitioners. She runs a range of practitioner retreats and workshops for trainers and facilitators.